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101 Inspiring Self-Esteem and Self-Love Quotes

Last update March 11, 2019.

Self-Esteem and Self-Love QuotesSome things may be equally essential but nothing is more important than a healthy sense of self-esteem and loving yourself.

Why?

In my experience, three of the most important reasons are:

1. Life becomes simpler and lighter. 

When you love yourself more then things simply become lighter and easier.

You won’t make as many mountains out of molehills (or out of plain air) as you used to. Or beat yourself up or drag yourself down over mistakes or temporary setbacks.

2. You’ll have more inner stability and self-sabotage less. 

When your opinion of yourself goes up then you’ll stop trying to get so much validation and attention from other people.

You become less needy and find an inner stability and strength even when your world might be negative or uncertain at times.

The increasing self-esteem and self-love also makes you feel more deserving of good things in life and so you’ll self-sabotage less and go after what you deep down want with more motivation and focus than ever before.

3. You’ll be happier. 

The main reason why value my self-esteem so highly, why I write about this topic so often and have created a whole 12-week course around it is simply because it has made my own life so much happier and more fun.

But instead of sharing my own thoughts and experiences like I usually do I’d like to take a different approach today.

I'd like to share 101 of the most inspiring, thought provoking and uplifting thoughts from the past 2400 years on getting to know yourself, raising your self-esteem and finding a self-love.

Bonus: Download a free step-by-step checklist that will show you how to improve your self-esteem and keep it stable (it's easy to save as a PDF or print out for whenever you need it during your day or week).

“You yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe, deserve your love and affection”
 – Buddha

“Until you value yourself, you won't value your time. Until you value your time, you will not do anything with it. ”
– M. Scott Peck

“A man cannot be comfortable without his own approval.”
– Mark Twain

“Never be bullied into silence. Never allow yourself to be made a victim. Accept no one's definition of your life, but define yourself.”
– Harvey Fierstein

“Love yourself first and everything else falls into line. You really have to love yourself to get anything done in this world.”
– Lucille Ball

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“Remember always that you not only have the right to be an individual, you have an obligation to be one.”
– Eleanor Roosevelt

“If only you could sense how important you are to the lives of those you meet; how important you can be to people you may never even dream of. There is something of yourself that you leave at every meeting with another person.”
– Fred Rogers

“Low self-esteem is like driving through life with your hand-break on.”
– Maxwell Maltz

“What lies behind us and what lies before us are tiny matters compared to what lies within us.”
– Ralph Waldo Emerson

“When you recover or discover something that nourishes your soul and brings joy, care enough about yourself to make room for it in your life.”
– Jean Shinoda Bolen

“Self-care is never a selfish act—it is simply good stewardship of the only gift I have, the gift I was put on earth to offer to others.”
– Parker Palmer

“When you adopt the viewpoint that there is nothing that exists that is not part of you, that there is no one who exists who is not part of you, that any judgment you make is self-judgment, that any criticism you level is self-criticism, you will wisely extend to yourself an unconditional love that will be the light of the world.”
– Harry Palmer

“Why should we worry about what others think of us, do we have more confidence in their opinions than we do our own?”
– Brigham Young

“The deepest principle in human nature is the craving to be appreciated.”
– William James

Self-Love Quotes 1

“To fall in love with yourself is the first secret to happiness.”
– Robert Morley

“Don't waste your energy trying to change opinions … Do your thing, and don't care if they like it.”
– Tina Fey

“So then, the relationship of self to other is the complete realization that loving yourself is impossible without loving everything defined as other than yourself.”
– Alan Watts

“Owning our story and loving ourselves through that process is the bravest thing that we’ll ever do.”
– Brené Brown

“One of the greatest regrets in life is being what others would want you to be, rather than being yourself.”
– Shannon L. Alder

“Inaction breeds doubt and fear. Action breeds confidence and courage. If you want to conquer fear, do not sit home and think about it. Go out and get busy.”
– Dale Carnegie

“Once you embrace your value, talents and strengths, it neutralizes when others think less of you.”
– Rob Liano

“To accept ourselves as we are means to value our imperfections as much as our perfections.”
– Sandra Bierig

“I don't want everyone to like me; I should think less of myself if some people did.”
– Henry James

“To establish true self-esteem we must concentrate on our successes and forget about the failures and the negatives in our lives.”
– Denis Waitley

“A healthy self-love means we have no compulsion to justify to ourselves or others why we take vacations, why we sleep late, why we buy new shoes, why we spoil ourselves from time to time. We feel comfortable doing things which add quality and beauty to life.”
– Andrew Matthews

Self-Love Quotes 2

“Our self-respect tracks our choices. Every time we act in harmony with our authentic self and our heart, we earn our respect. It is that simple. Every choice matters.”
– Dan Coppersmith

“People may flatter themselves just as much by thinking that their faults are always present to other people's minds, as if they believe that the world is always contemplating their individual charms and virtues.”
– Elizabeth Gaskell

“Don’t rely on someone else for your happiness and self-worth. Only you can be responsible for that. If you can’t love and respect yourself – no one else will be able to make that happen. Accept who you are – completely; the good and the bad – and make changes as YOU see fit – not because you think someone else wants you to be different.”
– Stacey Charter

“Don't ask yourself what the world needs, ask yourself what makes you come alive. And then go and do that. Because what the world needs is people who have come alive.”
– Howard Washington Thurman

”If you don’t love yourself, nobody will. Not only that, you won’t be good at loving anyone else. Loving starts with the self.”
– Wayne Dyer

“The worst loneliness is to not be comfortable with yourself.”
– Mark Twain

“It is not the mountain we conquer but ourselves.”
– Sir Edmund Hillary

“One's dignity may be assaulted, vandalized and cruelly mocked, but it can never be taken away unless it is surrendered.”
– Michael J. Fox

“My best friend is the one who brings out the best in me.”
– Henry Ford

“No other love no matter how genuine it is, can fulfill one’s heart better than unconditional self-love.”
– Edmond Mbiaka

Self-Love Quotes 3

“Loving yourself isn’t vanity. It’s sanity.”
– Katrina Mayer

“Lighten up on yourself. No one is perfect. Gently accept your humanness.”
– Deborah Day

“It’s all about falling in love with yourself and sharing that love with someone who appreciates you, rather than looking for love to compensate for a self-love deficit.”
– Eartha Kitt

“Too many people overvalue what they are not and undervalue what they are.”
– Malcolm S. Forbes

“Whatever course you decide upon, there is always someone to tell you that you are wrong. There are always difficulties arising which tempt you to believe that your critics are right. To map out a course of action and follow it to an end requires courage.”
– Ralph Waldo Emerson

“Never bend your head. Always hold it high. Look the world straight in the face.”
– Helen Keller

“You have been criticizing yourself for years, and it hasn't worked. Try approving of yourself and see what happens.”
– Louise L. Hay

“To love oneself is the beginning of a life-long romance”
– Oscar Wilde

“Be faithful to that which exists within yourself.”
– André Gide

“Act as if what you do makes a difference. It does.”
– William James

“The most beautiful people we have known are those who have known defeat, known suffering, known struggle, known loss, and have found their way out of the depths. These persons have an appreciation, a sensitivity and an understanding of life that fills them with compassions, gentleness, and a deep loving concern. Beautiful people do not just happen.”
– Elizabeth Kubler-Ross

“I prefer to be true to myself, even at the hazard of incurring the ridicule of others, rather than to be false, and to incur my own abhorrence.”
– Frederick Douglass

“You have to believe in yourself when no one else does – that makes you a winner right here.”
– Venus Williams

“If you do not respect your own wishes, no one else will. You will simply attract people who disrespect you as much as you do.”
– Vironika Tugaleva

“I had to grow to love my body. I did not have a good self-image at first. Finally it occurred to me, I’m either going to love me or hate me. And I chose to love myself. Then everything kind of sprung from there. Things that I thought weren’t attractive became sexy. Confidence makes you sexy.” 
– Queen Latifah

“We are each gifted in a unique and important way. It is our privilege and our adventure to discover our own special light.”
– Mary Dunbar

“If you have the ability to love, love yourself first.”
– Charles Bukowski

“To be yourself in a world that is constantly trying to make you something else is the greatest accomplishment.”
– Ralph Waldo Emerson

“People who love themselves, don’t hurt other people. The more we hate ourselves, the more we want others to suffer.”
– Dan Pearce

“Love is the great miracle cure. Loving ourselves works miracles in our lives.”
– Louise Hay

“The real difficulty is to overcome how you think about yourself.”
– Maya Angelou

“It took many years of vomiting up all the filth I’d been taught about myself, and half-believed before I was able to walk on the earth as though I had a right to be here.”
– James Baldwin

“A person learns how to love himself through the simple acts of loving and being loved by someone else.”
– Haruki Murakami

“My mother told me to be a lady. And for her, that meant be your own person, be independent.”
– Ruth Bader Ginsburg

“Find the love you seek, by first finding the love within yourself. Learn to rest in that place within you that is your true home.”
– Sri Sri Ravi Shankar

“Love yourself enough to set boundaries. Your time and energy are precious. You get to choose how you use it. You teach people how to treat you by deciding what you will and won’t accept.”
– Anna Taylor

“The most terrifying thing is to accept oneself completely.”
– Carl Gustav Jung

“The real difficulty is to overcome how you think about yourself.”
– Melanie Koulouris

“You're always with yourself, so you might as well enjoy the company.”
– Diane Von Furstenberg

“Who looks outside, dreams; who looks inside, awakes.”
– Carl Gustav Jung

“No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.”
– Eleanor Roosevelt

“The better you feel about yourself, the less you feel the need to show off.”
– Robert Hand

“I think everybody's weird. We should all celebrate our individuality and not be embarrassed or ashamed of it.”
– Johnny Depp

“You are very powerful, provided you know how powerful you are.”
– Yogi Bhajan

“It ain't what they call you, it's what you answer to.”
– W.C. Fields

“There are days I drop words of comfort on myself like falling leaves and remember that it is enough to be taken care of by myself.”
– Brian Andreas

Trust yourself. You know more than you think you do.”
– Benjamin Spock

“Because one believes in oneself, one doesn't try to convince others. Because one is content with oneself, one doesn't need others' approval. Because one accepts oneself, the whole world accepts him or her.”
– Lao-Tzu

“People who want the most approval get the least and the people who need approval the least get the most.”
– Wayne Dyer

“There is nothing noble about being superior to some other man. The true nobility is in being superior to your previous self.”
– Hindu Proverb

“I found in my research that the biggest reason people aren't more self-compassionate is that they are afraid they’ll become self-indulgent. They believe self-criticism is what keeps them in line. Most people have gotten it wrong because our culture says being hard on yourself is the way to be.”
– Kristen Neff

“If you are insecure, guess what? The rest of the world is too. Do not overestimate the competition and underestimate yourself. You are better than you think.”
– T. Harv Eker

“When you stop living your life based on what others think of you real life begins. At that moment, you will finally see the door of self-acceptance opened.”
– Shannon L. Alder

“You find peace not by rearranging the circumstances of your life, but by realizing who you are at the deepest level.”
– Eckhart Tolle

“Growth begins when we start to accept our own weakness.”
– Jean Vanier

“Nothing can stop the man with the right mental attitude from achieving his goal; nothing on earth can help the man with the wrong mental attitude.”
– Thomas Jefferson

“Your task is not to seek for Love, but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it.”
– Rumi

“When we fulfill our function, which is to truly love ourselves and share love with others, then true happiness sets in.”
– Gabrielle Bernstein

“Accept yourself, love yourself, and keep moving forward. If you want to fly, you have to give up what weighs you down.”
– Roy T. Bennett

“Did your mom ever tell you, ‘If you can’t say something nice, don’t say anything’? She was right–and talking nicely also applies when you’re talking to yourself, even inside your head.”
– Victoria Moran

“You can have anything you want if you are willing to give up the belief that you can’t have it.”
– Dr. Robert Anthony

“Self-love is an ocean and your heart is a vessel. Make it full, and any excess will spill over into the lives of the people you hold dear. But you must come first.”
– Beau Taplin

“Beauty begins the moment you decided to be yourself.”
– Coco Chanel

“Your problem is you’re… too busy holding onto your unworthiness.”
– Ram Dass

“The reward for conformity is that everyone likes you but yourself.”
– Rita Mae Brown

“She lacks confidence, she craves admiration insatiably. She lives on the reflections of herself in the eyes of others. She does not dare to be herself.”
– Anais Nin

“People are like stained-glass windows. They sparkle and shine when the sun is out, but when the darkness sets in their true beauty is revealed only if there is light from within.”
– Elisabeth Kübler-Ross

“If you aren't good at loving yourself, you will have a difficult time loving anyone, since you’ll resent the time and energy you give another person that you aren't even giving to yourself.”
– Barbara De Angelis

“Most of the shadows of this life are caused by standing in one's own sunshine.”
– Ralph Waldo Emerson

“It's surprising how many persons go through life without ever recognizing that their feelings toward other people are largely determined by their feelings toward themselves, and if you're not comfortable within yourself, you can't be comfortable with others.”
– Sidney J. Harris

“There came a time when the risk to remain tight in the bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom.”
– Anaïs Nin

“It took me a long time not to judge myself through someone else's eyes.”
– Sally Field

“When I loved myself enough, I began leaving whatever wasn't healthy. This meant people, jobs, my own beliefs and habits – anything that kept me small.  My judgement called it disloyal. Now I see it as self-loving.”
– Kim McMillen

“The best day of your life is the one on which you decide your life is your own. No apologies or excuses. No one to lean on, rely on, or blame. The gift is yours – it is an amazing journey – and you alone are responsible for the quality of it. This is the day your life really begins.”
– Bob Moawad

“Self-pity gets you nowhere. One must have the adventurous daring to accept oneself as a bundle of possibilities and undertake the most interesting game in the world making the most of one's best.”
– Harry Emerson Fosdick

“It is never too late to be what you might have been.”
– George Eliot

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  • I read your quotes and I was really impressed with your thoughts .These quotes are really helpful to bring up the positivity in anybody’s life and motivate him to choose the right path.

  • Titus Ombeta

    “I am not what happened to me. I am what I choose to become.”
    Enough is enough,, nyc inspirational quotes,, thanks

  • Annette Coulon

    Favorite Quote:

    “Don’t ask yourself what the world needs, ask yourself what makes you come alive. And then go and do that. Because what the world needs is people who have come alive.”
    – Howard Washington Thurman

  • Thanks for this inspiring list of quotes. My favourite one is number 38.

  • PEDALS

    As with affirmations, favourite quote – the one which resonates most with me – depends on the moment and how I’m feeling. For this present moment, most helpful is: “………..ask yourself what makes you come alive. And then go and do that. Because what the world needs is people who have come alive.”
    Loved reading this post, Henrik, and have loved reading your blog for months. Also love reading other people’s comments – great feeling of Brotherhood or Big Family. Many thanks.

  • Mary Cuthbert

    All the quotes from Ralph Waldo Emerson really struck home with me, especially “what lies behind us and what lies before us are tiny matters compared to what lies within us.” We spend too much time dwelling on the past or worrying about the future. Thanks you so much, some brilliant inspiration here to call on again and again!

  • Wow, great article. I love the simplicity of it. It’s easy to get caught up in the game of comparing ourselves to others in regards to anything. If we can master the art of being comfortable and love ourselves, not in a conceited way, of course, but in a way the promotes acceptance and allows ourselves to be imperfect in order to allow growth, than an innumerous amount of limitations are lifted.

    Also, Lao-Tzu quotes are awesome.

  • Elsa

    Hi! I’ve been reading your pages quite regularly and really want to thank you very much for each one of them. Really POSITIVE THOUGHTS, that’s what the world needs now and forever. Best wishes to you in Sweden! I’ve never been there, but the wife of my brother is also swedish.

  • I love them all but I believe this one is the reason why we do not love more, are more compassionate and understanding of others, can empathize more and be more accepting, less judgmental and just generally nicer persons to others. 47 – “It’s surprising how many persons go through life without ever recognizing that their feelings toward other people are largely determined by their feelings toward themselves, and if you’re not comfortable within yourself, you can’t be comfortable with others.”
    – Sidney J. Harris

  • Rain Llanillo

    Can’t throw even one of those superb inspiring quotes :)
    The one caught my feelings the most is the #27 by Elizabeth Kubler-Ross:
    “The most beautiful people we have known are those who have known defeat, known suffering, known struggle, known loss, and have found their way out of the depths. These persons have an appreciation, a sensitivity and an understanding of life that fills them with compassions, gentleness, and a deep loving concern. Beautiful people do not just happen.”

  • Self sabotage is the worste. If you have low self esteem you tolerate disrespectful situation and you think you don’t deserve what you desire. That actually damanges every possible chance to improve your life. Self esteem is the basis. I suffered from low self esteem and I can tell that it’s truly bad cause it destroys your entire life, since it involves so many areas. Thanks for your articles! :)

  • Jennifer

    Thank you for the quote list! I work in mental health and was working on a quote list for some “hope grams” to distribute for Mental Health Week coming up in May, so I found some good ones here :)

    One that inspired me recently was from a friend of mine. After a breakup when I was getting depressed again she asked me who I wanted to be and did I really want to lose all the things I had gained in my life. It really helped remind me that my actions were a choice and I could choose to act how I wanted to act and who I wanted to be and really helped me to start acting in healthier ways even though I wasn’t necessarily happy with life or things.

  • Sunita Gopalan

    “Not in matter, but in thought, not in possessions not even in attainments, but in ideals is to be found the seeds of immortality. Not through material acquisitions, but in generous diffusion of ideas and ideals, the truth of humanity is established.” – Indian scientist, Jagdish Chandra Bose.

    You are on your way , Henrik, for “generous diffusion of ideas and ideals “!

  • Nice collection! Plus One more

    “If you surround yourself with the good and righteous, they can only raise you up. If you surround yourself with the others, they will drag you down into the doldrums of mediocrity, and they will keep you there, but only as long as you permit it.” – Mark Glamack