“Certain flaws are necessary for the whole. It would seem strange if old friends lacked certain quirks.”
Johann Wolfgang Von Goethe
“People throw away what they could have by insisting on perfection, which they cannot have, and looking for it where they will never find it.”
One of the most common challenges that people email me about – and I myself have had quite a bit of trouble with – is perfectionism.
It's an issue that can hold you back in life. Not only from achieving and finishing what you want.
sometimes from even getting started. While at the same time draining your self-esteem, causing self-doubt and getting you stuck in a negative spiral where it can become harder and harder to start moving forward.
So today I'd like to share 6 things that have helped me – and still helps me to this day – with this destructive and distracting thought habit.
“Then followed that beautiful season… Summer… Filled was the air with a dreamy and magical light; and the landscape lay as if new created in all the freshness of childhood.”
Henry Wadsworth Longfellow
Summer is here in full bloom after what was, at least up here in Sweden, a long and cold winter and spring.
So this week I’d like to share 7 small and simple tips that you can use to create a happier summer – and rest of the year – for yourself.
1. Go slow.
You’ll be less stressed and you’ll enjoy all the smells, the sights and people in your summer even more.
So slow down a bit and use all your senses to tap into what is happening in this moment around you and inside of you.
“When you are content to be simply yourself and don’t compare or compete, everybody will respect you.”
Today I’d like to focus on a negative habit that creates insecurity within,
erodes self-esteem and can make you feel quite unhappy with your own life.
It’s something that has sprung up as we have moved a part of our lives on to the internet and social media.
And that habit is to compare yourself and your life to other people’s highlight reels.
What do I mean by that?
That it’s so easy to start comparing your life to the lives of friends, old classmates or celebrities of all sizes as you each day see how perfect their homes, kids, love lives are and how filled their lives are with wonderful moments.
“Three Rules of Work: Out of clutter find simplicity; From discord find harmony; In the middle of difficulty lies opportunity.”
“Think simple” as my old master used to say – meaning reduce the whole of its parts into the simplest terms, getting back to first principles.”
Frank Lloyd Wright
The daily work we do – in school, at work or in a business – can easily become overwhelming, ineffective and suck the energy and joy out of what you are doing.
So how can you work in a lighter, simpler way that helps you to
get more of what truly matters done in less time and with less stress?
Let me share 12 habits that I've discovered over the years that help me to do just that.
“When one door of happiness closes, another opens, but often we look so long at the closed door that we do not see the one that has been opened for us.”’
“Happiness is when what you think, what you say, and what you do are in harmony.”
Living a life where you're happier and
kinder towards yourself is not just about what you can do.
But also about what you are already doing. And especially those habits that do have a negative and unhappy impact on your life.
So this week I'd like to share 9 such habits. And what have helped me a whole lot to do instead.
Do you have problems with keeping a conversation going? Do you sometimes run out of things to say?
Then you’re in the right place.
Because in this post I’d like to share 8 of my own favorite tips and habits that have helped me to greatly reduce this issue in my own life.
Here is what has worked the best for me to not get stuck in awkward silences or in not being able to keep a conversation going.