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How to Start Spreading the Optimism This Summer: 7 Simple Tips

“A pessimist sees the difficulty in every opportunity; an optimist sees the opportunity in every difficulty.”
Winston Churchill


It can turn a situation that looks negative or bleak into an opportunity or something to learn from.

It can replace the draining thoughts of pessimism with something that will give you more energy and enthusiasm again.

And it can help you to jump over obstacles, to keep moving when you fall or stumble and to not give up just because you have had a couple of temporary setbacks.

So not just adding more of it to your own life but to the lives of the people in your world is good idea.

Because you tend to get back what you give in the long run. And in the short run, well, you get to enjoy the smiles when you spread the optimism. And you’ll boost your own self-esteem when you feel you are doing the right thing.

Here are 7 simple tips that can help you to get started with that.

1. Just be there for someone.

Listen and lend the optimistic and grounded perspective to someone in your life in need of it.

At first I find it best to just the let other person vent, to let him or her get issue at hand out into the light. So I am just there fully and listening.

Oftentimes this might be enough. Because just being there will help him or her to let the emotional tension out and to analyze the issue and to find a solution or to let it go.

If she or he gets stuck in negative thinking or in making a mountain out of a molehill then it can be helpful to add your own perspective to ground him or her and to help shift perspective on the situation.

To make him or her see that if you zoom out then things aren’t that bad really. And together the two of you might be able to find a solution or a first step that he or she can put into action.

2. Play positive music.

Uplifting music is of course a great way to boost your own mood and open up new perspectives again.

You can do the same for people around you. Put on a really positive song when you are hanging out. Or send them an uplifting playlist for Spotify or a similar program.

3. Take 30-60 seconds to give a genuine compliment.

Think about one thing that makes the other person tick. A small or bigger passion. Or something good that people too often take for granted about him or her.

And then give a compliment about that. It often means more than you might guess.

4. Smile.

A smile puts you and the people around you into a better and more relaxed headspace.

It works even when you don’t feel that much like smiling. If you like, do a brief experiment. Force a smile for 30 seconds or a minute if you are feeling a bit negative and see what happens to your mood.

5. Help someone to wind down.

People have been busy with work or school ever since the beginning of the year. This can add a lot of tension and stress. And that can certainly get in the way of optimistic and constructive thinking.

So help someone in your life to wind down. Suggest going for a picnic. Just laugh and perhaps go for swim in the nearby lake or ocean. Just lie together in silence on the blanket and watch the clouds go by for a while.

A break like this can do wonders for the mood and perspective for the both of you.

6. Hug.

A hug is, perhaps often even more than a smile, something that can make someone feel a little better and a bit safer again. Use it when appropriate of course.

But don’t underestimate the effect of it and how that little nudge can turn someone’s thoughts around towards something brighter and more positive again.

7. Pay it forward.

If someone in your life adds a bit of optimism to your life then don’t just return it somewhere down the line. Pay it forward to someone else too.

And together build a growing upward spiral of optimism, encouragement and kindness.

Image by Luz Adriana Villa (license).

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  • Flaviu June 6, 2014, 9:11 am

    Thank you, Henrik! I am often in search for positivism and your posts are helping me a lot.

  • Ian June 7, 2014, 4:34 am

    Hi Everyone.
    I find that a smile is such a wonderful thing. Peple respond/engage much more readily if you have a pleasant look on your face.
    I hand out the poem below sometimes and often get really good feedback. Lets spread it around the world:

    A smile is infectious
    You catch it like the flue
    When someone smiled at me today
    I started smiling too
    I turned around a corner
    And someone saw my grin
    When they smiled back at me
    I knew I’d passed it on to him
    I thought about my smile
    And considered its worth
    A smile just like mine
    Could travel around the earth
    So if you feel a smile begin
    Please don’t delete it
    Lets start an epidemic quick
    And get the world infected :-)

  • Ryan Biddulph June 7, 2014, 9:10 am

    Being there for others is an instant positivity booster. Thanks Henrik!

  • Jeff June 8, 2014, 2:35 am

    I love the idea of positive music and genuine compliments! Great reminders! Thank you! :-)

  • Fr. M Arul raj June 8, 2014, 4:24 am

    Dear Henrik
    A Young man with hundred year old man’s wisdom.
    You are great and you make your readers great.
    Your articles are inspiring and enriching.
    God Bless you.

  • Tita June 8, 2014, 1:43 pm

    I would say that number 5 also helps you because doing an enjoyable activity with someone else raises your happiness and optimism. Not to mention, you can create some great memories.

  • Rizwan June 9, 2014, 8:06 am

    Dear Henrik
    Your articles give me energy and hope. I am a Pakistani national. I have lived and taught English in China. Coming back to my home in Pakistan has been a nightmare for me. Drowning economy, low wages, extremely hot weather but frequent power cuts, mosquitos, noise, reverse cultural shock, too much religion, hypocracy. Lying and so much. My wife and other family members rejected me . The positivity which I had grown in me got shattered. I make very little cash to feed my kids. I remain silent because my spouse speaks loudly. This is affecting me and my kids negatively.
    I survive by remaining good and myself.. I am so thankful that your articles help me to boost my energy.
    All the best

  • Sebastian Aiden Daniels June 10, 2014, 3:59 am

    My favorite ones are definitely paying it forward, smiling, and playing positive music. I think doing something nice for a stranger or being nice to someone in a service industry is something that is simple and kind that can pay positive emotions forward everyday.

  • Jowett June 10, 2014, 3:50 pm

    Looks like this steps are not only applicable during summer, I love it. Works throughout any season!

  • Mélissa June 11, 2014, 3:43 pm

    Your article is inspiring. Thank you for sharing with us.

  • Carol June 12, 2014, 1:17 am

    I’ve enjoyed reading your blog and your posts. I’m a student at UofT learning about social media, web 2.0 and the principles of good blogging. The “beat” of your blog is refreshing and informative. You’ve done an excellent job incorporating scannability, authenticity, and voice. Thanks for your continued positive outlook on life!

  • Gideon June 12, 2014, 11:56 am

    Thanks a lot Henrik! Just what I needed to hear to keep me through th day.

  • Melissa June 14, 2014, 7:07 am

    Great Article! Keep up the great work!

  • jocelynchoy June 29, 2014, 2:56 am

    thank you so much for this articles…
    They are very useful..

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