“Give whatever you are doing and whoever you are with the gift of your attention.”
Jim Rohn
“If you want to make an easy job seem mighty hard, just keep putting off doing it.”
Olin Miller
A couple of months ago I got my first smart phone, a couple of years after most people up here in Sweden.
It is actually kind of awesome, especially when you have had an old Nokia for about half a decade.
With my new smartphone can check the news or any website at any time of the day, read books, play fun games like Where’s My Water? and Flick Golf and listen to Spotify. And I’ll have an awesome guide with loads of pictures, info and a map for when mushroom hunting season begins here in the summer/early fall.
But in the first few weeks of using it I also noticed that I felt more stressed. I started to procrastinate more by playing games on the phone or by doing random internet browsing. My attention span got chopped up into smaller pieces. I checked the phone too much while spending time with others and I started to feel addicted to doing something on the phone many times a day.
So something had to change. Here’s what I did – and a few general tips – to reduce the phone usage, minimize the negative effects and still enjoy the capabilities of this new tool. These tips can also be used if you are for example having similar problems with your computer.
Create small obstacles.
This is very simple and a boundary I have written about many times when it for example comes to eating healthier.
I set up a small obstacles to using the phone. When I sleep it is not in the bedroom with me but in drawer beneath the desk in my workspace. When I work during the day or hang out at home during the evening I keep the phone in the bedroom.
By putting up small obstacles like these I make sure that the phone is not by my side all the time and the procrastination by phone has dropped to about zero. And if someone calls or sends me a text message I will still hear it most of the time.
So if you can, prevent the easy access and what that tends to result in and put the phone somewhere where you can’t see it or where you have to get up and take a whole bunch of steps to get it.
Shut it off at a certain time each day.
I personally don’t use this for my phone but if you get a lot of calls every day then shutting it off at a certain time at the end of the workday and getting back to people tomorrow can prevent a lot of stress and inner negativity.
This is what I have noticed when using this tactic for my computer where I am writing this right now. I shut it off at seven o clock in the evening at the latest – but usually earlier that that – and it stays off until the next morning. By doing all my work on this computer and using our other computer for watching a movie for instance I draw a boundary that helps me to stick to my work schedule for about 95% of the time.
This has helped me to not become overworked and to decrease stress.
Bunch checking.
Instead of checking your Facebook, Twitter, email and other social media whenever you feel like it during the day and becoming hooked on that try bunching the checking. Try to just check all those accounts and inboxes once a day in one combined session at the end of your workday.
Or if you just use Facebook etc. for your personal life then limit it to one check a day or to checking it once just after lunch and once in the evening.
The less you check it and the later in the day you check it, the less you feel addicted to it. That has been my experience at least.
Get a life.
Of course, nowadays much of life is in the phone. We can check what friends and colleagues are up to and keep in touch and discuss things on the phone.
But the phone can also become a sort of replacement where it becomes easy to spend time instead of going out and having other experiences and being there fully. Stuff like being out in nature, playing sports or playing in a band, working towards your biggest goal, having uninterrupted conversations or a fun night out.
Simply by filling your life with a bit more fun or exciting activities, people face to face and the things you want out of life you won’t have time or as many reasons to use the phone that much anymore.
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Henrik Edberg is the creator of the Positivity Blog and has written weekly articles here since 2006. He has a bachelor’s degree in journalism from the University of Gothenburg and has been featured on Lifehacker, HuffPost and Paulo Coelho’s blog.
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Good techniques! I’ve been doing each of those, plus two more, and it makes a big, big difference. The other techniques I have?
1) I try to avoid texting and other instant messaging services with people who are significant in my life. If my wife or a good friend texts me, I’m likely to call them back. This lets me focus my attention on them for a few minutes, then I can get back to what I’m doing without distraction or guilt.
2) I have a “dumb” phone for calls and texts and an iPod Touch for all the other smartphone functionality. This lets me segregate a bit more, creating another small obstacle. If I want to take a break from email, Twitter, and Facebook, I leave my iPod behind. Vice versa if I want to avoid calls and texts.
Regardless of your personal way of handling this, the important point is to be the master of your gadgets, and not the other way around!
Personally, I keep a dumbphone precisely because I don’t want to be tempted with facebook and e-mail non-stop. As each of my friends got smartphones, they went from COMPLAINING about those who never paid attention in conversations to BEING those who never paid attention in conversations.
Here’s a few tricks to deal with not have a smartphone:
1.) Put your e-mail address in your address book– and then whenever you remember something to do or look up later, just text it to your e-mail
2.) When you need directions, ask a person (bold, I know)
3.) If you really need to see something online immediately, ask someone you’re with to use their smartphone
That has worked astoundingly well for me. I work at a large tech company that gave out smartphones to all employees, so I’m a bit in the minority with my opinions… Follow with caution ;)
That’s some good additional tips from the both of you, thank you for adding them! :)
i found this article interesting i think the people who are most likely to get addicted are the ones who have nothing going on in there life for whatever reason if it be for health reasons , unemployment , or redundancy. Its a big problem which isnt being addressed properly these medias are becoming more common in the workplace as a way of communicating and transporting documented information. Its worrying especially when you consider that stress is a number one killer in the workplace.
Thank you for the kind words and for adding your thoughtful comment!
This is a really good article. I love my phone, iPad and laptop, but I hate re-opening Twitter&my mailbox twelve times a day and browsing 9gag just because I can. The barrier and bunch tips are awesome, and shut it off and live your life are even better. Thanks for this!
Thank you very much, glad you found the article helpful!
We all need a reminder that technology is not LIFE! Thanks for telling us to get out and live once in awhile.
You’re very welcome!
I can sooo relate to what you’re saying. great tips. I will try to implement them into my daily life ASAP. I compltely agree when you said that sometimes our phones can or may seem to replace spending actual time with people.
That’s great to hear, I hope they will help you as much as they have helped me.
Excellent post dear friend:) the ironic thing is I’m musing my smart phone to read this post:)
I absolutely agree that smart phones are very helpful but most certainly are stressful and can become addictive. Sometimes I just take out the battery to enjoy a moment of peace and quiet. . I think a great practice would be to switch it off before bed or even earlier. Thank you kindly for providing us with tips. Kind regards, kay
Thanks! :) Good tip about sometimes taking out the battery, that habit could bring quite bit of daily peace into one’s life.
very true.
Thanks so much for an insightful post and tools we can use daily. Blessings to you!
This is such a timely post, because I just bought my first smartphone as a result of my 5-year-old dumbphone dying on Tuesday. Since I am observing, starting tonight, the National Day of Unplugging, I wrote a blog post about this amusing coincidence: http://franklinchen.com/blog/2012/03/22/paradox-i-will-observe-the-national-day-of-unplugging-but-just-bought-my-first-smartphone-this-week/
Very true, I don’t have any smartphone (have normal mobile phone) but I also try to not use it much because it is not good to use these gadgets a lot. It is harmful for your eyes too.
So true. My daughters have smart phones, and it is handy to have all that information at your fingertips, but then they get so anxious if they are away from their phones! I have a cell phone, but it is not a smart one–just a functional one. The computer is more of the type of distraction you describe. I do get stressed sometimes, and I just have to turn it off. I just got back from a weekend at my cabin in the mountains–no cell phone or internet service there. Heaven!
PS–I meant to add that I laughed out loud at your last bit of advice–get a life! That was great.
This post hit the nail on the head! That said, my favorite tip of yours was “get a life.” I used to be attached at the hip (at the thumb?!) with my iPhone, however after experiencing an evening with a friend who was even MORE obsessed with her smartphone, I realized that I couldn’t call her out on it as I would then be a hypocrite.
Let’s just say my phone habits have changed DRASTICALLY since then. Oh, and I also now have a life outside of “texting-ville.” Three words: so much better!
I have avoided getting a smart phone… and I’m glad I have for the most part. I don’t believe I’d ever want a job that required me to have my e-mail…etc. at my finger tips 24/7, and if I ever need internet access when I’m not near a computer, I just call up a friend or family member who probably is to get the information I need.
I have a poem about the technological innovations and their negative effect :) Your post reminded me about it. http://www.lifeprobabilities.com/2008/10/29/sophisticated-miscommunication/
As to me, having worked for almost 3 years in telecom sector I absolutely hate ringing mobiles :)
Thanks for this article, Henrik. Thought-provoking, and I do sometimes “take a break” from my iPhone by leaving it somewhere inaccessible.
That said, there is another approach to this. I actually run a lot of my internet-based business through my iPhone. A lot of my outreach is via Facebook, and the new Facebook app lets me easily update statuses and post links to my websites. I get notifications of new customer payments in my email, and emails from my clients and customers. Basically, I use it as a tool to INCREASE my productivity. (Of course, I don’t play games or any other “time wasters” on my iPhone.)
So for me, the iPhone gives me the freedom to travel to seminars where I’m speaking, go skiing, and whatever else I might like while still staying connected with my business and making money. Just a different perspective on it.
Happy Birthday by the way! :)