3 Quick Questions for a Simpler and Happier 2017

“New Year's eve is like every other night; there is no pause in the march of the universe, no breathless moment of silence among created things that the passage of another twelve months may be noted; and yet no man has quite the same thoughts this evening that come with the coming of darkness on other nights”
Hamilton Wright Mabie

This year is coming to an end. Just a couple more days to go.

But before we step through that doorway I'd like to quickly share one last article with 3 of my favorite questions of all time that can help you shape 2017 into 365 days that will be simpler, happier and self-kinder.

Stay safe, enjoy your New Year's celebration and see you next year!

1. Is this useful?

It's very easy to spend a lot of time on things that do not really matter much. To spend hours, days or even weeks on being angry at someone, replaying a mistake or failure in one’s mind or to dwell on something negative and feeling more and more like a victim.

So I try to ask myself this question as often as I can to question and confront my own thoughts.  To catch myself and to wake myself up when I get stuck in negative thought loops going round and round.

By doing so I:

  • Suffer less.
  • Waste less time on going round in circles.
  • Spend more of my time on finding a practical solution.

2. What is one very small step I can take right now to get the ball rolling?

This is my favorite question for when I want to get started with something or if I want to get going again with something that have fallen to the side for some reason.

Because it makes things easier. Makes them feel lighter.

This question prevents me from trying to escape into procrastination and helps me to avoid the side-effects of that such as sinking self-esteem and simply a lot of time being wasted on trying to hide.

3. Will this matter in 5 years? Or even 5 weeks?

This one helps me to simplify.

To let go.

To not make a mountain out of a molehill.

To find the healthier and happier perspective.

To not lose my focus and energy to crippling worries.

To find a lightness in life where I do not have to carry around 5 tons of unnecessary mental baggage.

It is a truly wonderful question.

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  • Nancy

    Thanks so much for your motivational emails this year. They are so encouraging and enlightening I really look forward to receiving them and learning new pearls of wisdom. Have a wonderful day and all the best for 2017.

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  • Smita narain

    Thank you for all your insights. Got so many useful tips and ways in which to handle situations or ones own mindset. Hope 2017 is very good and fulfilling for you!

  • Sheila O Connell

    Question 2 is interesting and so important but I feel it’s not answered could you do this for me it’s how to get ball rolling how do I do this.

  • smruti

    Its really a motivational, refreshing, guiding articles
    when i saw the articles that all r match with my conditions so really useful
    & thank u for being part of the day

  • Patrick Ogola

    I hsve really enjoyed your articles because they are very educative, encouraging and motivational. God bless you and a Happy New year 2017

  • Garima

    Your way of looking towards life is really adorable and inspiring.

  • Thank you, this was inspirational and motivational.

  • Alycen

    3 simple questions but they will have a major impact on my life!

  • Sunny

    I was just having a moment and recalled to look back at your article to calm down, take a breath, and think through before I decide to dwell on my emotions. Thank you for the gift. I appreciate that you exist.

  • Tony

    Thanks for help on your posivity blogs they have helped thank you

  • Nestor dela Fuente

    really sppreciate your positive advice and looking forward you continue to inspire many people in years to come. have a wonderful and prosperous new year .

  • The second question is my favorite. Yet, the other two questions are equally important. Thank you very much.

  • hotman

    They are so encouraging and enlightening. THANKS