“First we make our habits, then our habits make us.” Charles C. Noble
“Motivation is what gets you started. Habit is what keeps you going.” Jim Rohn
Changing just one habit in life can have a huge positive impact.
But it’s often not an easy thing to do. And it becomes even harder to make a change that truly sticks when you make the most common mistakes. Mistakes I know many do and I have made quite a few times myself.
So today I’d like to share 7 things you need to stop doing to change a habit more easily and to make it stick for a long time.
One very helpful life skill is to be able to chill out.
To be calm in negative situations and not overreact about all kinds of things. Or invent big, big problems in your mind – or create them in your world as you drag other people in through arguments – by making mountains out of molehills.
By being able to chill out when needed to you will:
Have a lot less stress, worry and pointless conflicts with other people.
Waste less of your time, energy and thoughts on things that aren’t really that useful.
Attract what you are. To be able to draw people who are more relaxed and positive about life into your life then you have to be that person yourself. People like to hang out with people who are similar to them (because it’s comfortable, because it brings more fun and success, because people have 24 hours in a day and so choices need to be made).
Being someone that can be cool and relaxed about things is a positive and attractive social quality for any kind of relationship.
“Confidence comes not from always being right but from not fearing to be wrong.” Peter T. Mcintyre
“When a resolute young fellow steps up to the great bully, the world, and takes him boldly by the beard, he is often surprised to find it comes off in his hand, and that it was only tied on to scare away the timid adventurers.” Ralph Waldo Emerson
One of the most common questions I get via email is how to increase your confidence in yourself.
So this week I’d simply like to share three things you can do to increase your self-confidence starting today.
“A good laugh and a long sleep are the best cures in the doctor’s book.” Irish Proverb
“The amount of sleep required by the average person is five minutes more.” Wilson Mizener
I have to say that, overall, I sleep well.
Things weren’t always like that though. I often had trouble falling asleep and would twist and turn on the bed for a long time several times a week. I sometimes slept pretty badly and if I woke up in the middle of the night then it usually took me quite some time to go back to sleep.
Over the many nights and many years I have found a handful of habits that have helped me to minimize these problems and to get a good night’s rest pretty much every time.
These are 7 habits that help me to sleep better. I hope you will share yours too in the comments.
“No matter where you go – there you are.” Confucius
“One of the greatest gifts you can give to anyone is the gift of attention.” Jim Rohn
The weekend is almost here again.
And soon, all over the world, people will make a very common mistake and get lost in a destructive habit.
They will get lost in the grey zone. They will go into a weekend that they want to spend with a good book and the family, maybe with friends down at the pub or with going out for a hike or a picnic in the sunshine.
And then they will get lost in thoughts about work.
And so the stress will start to build. The motivation and energy will start to get sucked out. The attention will wander. There is no real relaxation and recharging happening.
“First we make our habits, then our habits make us.”