“So, what should I talk about?”

When it comes to conversations I think this is one question we have asked both others and ourselves many, many times

Often in our heads, when already in a conversation, with an awkward silence looming and while trying to scramble for something to say. :)

That’s not an entirely bad place to be though. Pauses in conversations are natural and it’s good to get used to the social pressure of a conversation gone quiet.

However, if you too often run into silences, if they have a tendency to go on for a little bit too long then it’s always good to have few pointers stored at the back of your mind. Here are 5 great things to talk about. And a little bit further down, 5 things you should probably try to avoid talking about.

1. The person you are talking to

2. Your surroundings

3. The news and water cooler topics

4. Likes and dislikes

5. Relatable emotions and experiences

Five Potentially Awful Topics to Talk About

So, what topics should you avoid? None, really. But some topics are perhaps are only suited for some conversations. Maybe with close friends or family.

Some topics can get out of hand. You might need to limit the amount of time you talk about them. When people’s eyes are starting to glaze over, when people are starting to look around in the room and stop listening it’s time to change the subject.

Don’t suck the fun and positive energy of conversations. Think before you talk when the subjects below are on your mind.

What is one of the most effective ways to change your own behavior and habits? Doing things backwards.

What I mean by backward is that if you for instance start moving slower you soon start feeling calmer.

If you start to smile – even if your force it – you soon feel happy and like you actually want to smile. It’s kinda strange but it sure does work.

This is not just limited to your body. Instead of changing yourself and through that changing your surroundings you can turn it around. Change your surroundings to change yourself.

How I Changed My Information Diet

During the last year I have changed my information intake habits quite a bit. First, about a year and a half ago, I realized that there wasn’t much I watched on the TV that I really wanted to watch. It was mostly a habit I used to fill out time. So I put the TV in my closet and it’s been there pretty much even since. Nowadays, when I’m at home, I watch just what I want to watch on my computer. I don’t miss the TV, but one thing I’ve noticed is that I have seldom seen popular TV-commercials that people keep bringing up in conversations.

After I started blogging I read a lot of blogs and my bookmark folder became hard to manage and get an overview of. I read online for hours each day. Finally, I got tired of this and it was time to eliminate. So cut I ruthlessly among my RSS-feeds and reduced about 15-20 of them to 7. Then I deleted about 95% of my bookmarks. One important thing I did was deleting bookmarks for sites I was addicted to such as email, RSS-feeds and blogstatistics. Now, when I want to access these sites I have to type in the address manually (or Google it). This has reduced the checking of those sites from about 8 times a day to once or twice.

I’ve used the same method for limiting my use of social bookmarking sites like Reddit and Digg. And to go from checking three of the biggest Swedish newspapers online 3-4 times a day to checking one paper once each day. I did all the switches pretty fast. When the short-cuts were gone the habits and temptations ceased pretty quickly. The new habits were established in about two weeks.

Other Areas of Your Life Where You Can Apply the Same Method

Here are three important areas people often want to change and a few environmental suggestions for each of those areas.

Your Health

• You can replace a bad health habit with a better one by for instance throwing out your cookies and candy. Then fill your fridge and cabinets with healthier snacks such as carrots, fruits and nuts. It might not sound like fun. But you’ll get used to it and appreciate the new replacements sooner than you might think.
• Buy healthier cookbooks – or look for healthy recipes online – and throw out your take-out menus.
• Subscribe to RSS-feeds from the best health blogs and create a bookmark-folder for the best health websites you can find. Make these daily reading to reinforce your new and healthier outlook.
• Leave your running-shoes or soccer out in an easy-to-see place in your apartment/house instead of tucking them into your closet. It’s easy to just get caught up in everyday life and forget exercising (or remember it when you are lying in bed waiting to go to sleep). This is a simple reminder to help you avoid such situations.
• Join a local group and for example start practising yoga or playing basketball. You’ll not only get more exercise but you might also find some new friends that can act a positive health influence on you. I wouldn’t go so far as to ditch the friends you go out drinking beer and sit around watching TV with. But you can expand your circle of friends to reflect and reinforce your new way of living.

Your Income and Financial Situation

• Cut your credit-cards to get out of one growing debt-trap.
• Get a clear picture of your finances and eliminate the things you don’t need. Take them out of your life and soon you may think: Why did I ever start doing those things in the first place?.
• If you have debts or financial problems, don’t use your time by focusing on how bad your situation is. Focus on finding ways to solve the problem. Whatever the challenge is focus your mind on finding solutions.
• Read free and high-quality blogs about finance like Get Rich Slowly and I Will Teach You to Be Rich. Delete the bookmarks to sites where you have spent too much money. Or even better, erase your account at those websites.
• Write down your financial goal(s) on pieces of paper. It might be something like increase your monthly income by 30%. Or reducing your spending each month by 20%. Then tape those pieces of paper on your fridge, bathroom mirror, workspace and computer to see your goal(s) many times a day. This will help you keep your focus on what’s important and what you want.
• Join an online forum for money and finances to get support, new ideas and good conversations going. This can be especially valuable if no-one in your immediate surrounding is interested in managing or discussing money.

Your Social Life

• Join local groups of like-minded people to find new and potentially great friends.
• Try to find friends that can be a positive support. Spend more time with them. Limit you time with negative friends/co-workers. Who you spend time with will decide much of how you’ll feel and what you’ll experience. Hanging with the right crowd for you can do wonders.
• Instead of being hesitant and saying no, say yes for a month whenever someone invites you for something. It’s good to try new environments, and you never who you’ll meet.
• Try replacing the newspaper in the morning with a good sit-com episode or listening/reading a self improvement book. Starting your day on a positive note can lift your spirits and when you are positive rather instead of negative socialising becomes a whole lot easier.
• Try online dating, blind dates or speed dating to get away from the bar/club-scene for a while.
• If your special-interests are too obscure – or your town is too small – go online to find people to discuss with. Or consider joining a group in a larger, nearby city and taking the car, bus or train there.
• If you want to be a more social person, put yourself in more social situations, take more chances, and take more action. People will seldom come to you. If you want to wait for that, prepare for a long wait. Instead, be proactive and take the first step. It can be scary but there are practical ways to overcome that fear. Have a look at Do You Make These 10 Mistakes in a Conversation? and How to Make a Great First Impression for tips and pointers on improving your people skills. Read 5 Life-Changing Keys to Overcoming Your Fear for practical advice on how to overcome social fears and anxieties.

Try brainstorming environmental factors for the change you want to achieve in your life. Have a look at How to Spark Your Creativity and come up with ways to change your environment so it more suits and is a natural part of the life of the person you want to become.

One thing about changing your life is that you can promise yourself to do anything in the future. And that sounds good and feels even better. But later on we can always come up with reasons to rationalize doing what we decided to never do again just a week ago. And those reasons don’t even have to be that great or logical. When we feel like doing whatever it is we want to do – smoke a cigarette, buy a new expensive coat or shy away from facing a fear – then out mind will find ways to rationalize it. And we’ll do it, feeling we have a good reason to. And then the next day we promise ourselves and others to not do it again. And so on.

By removing these things from your environment as best your can and replacing them with more suitable things you take away many of the opportunities to both do and to rationalize doing something. By replacing them with the things, people etc. that the person you want to become would have a around himself or herself it kinda forces you to live up to and adapt to your new surroundings. And so it becomes easier to change and reach your goals.

Your environment is an important part of you and your identity. Every day it reinforces who you are. Tear your environment down and rebuild it to help create and reinforce a new part of yourself and the person you want to become.

What’s the best way to solve a problem?

I really don’t think there is one way to do it. And the ways you can use to solve a problem depends on the problem.

But I have found a few tips that have helped me solve problems more easily. I seldom use all of the tips for solving one problem and they aren’t arranged in any special order.

However, I find doing some of these things early on can really help you solve the problem faster and with less struggle and pain.

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“The real art of conversation is not only to say the right thing at the right place but to leave unsaid the wrong thing at the tempting moment.”
Dorothy Nevill

Social skills and relationships are probably two of the most important things in life.

So it always strikes me as a bit odd that while we learn so much when we grow up there is often somewhat of a lack of advice on how to improve our communication skills.

If there is something that we should learn more about in school, then this is one of those things since it can improve lives and society in a big way.

Of course, if you do some digging and browsing and looking you can find solid and time-tested information from throughout the ages on this topic. And since communication and relationships is a pretty intuitive and free flowing process, advice that applies in all situations is pretty hard to find. Much of these things you have to learn from experience.

But there are some good pointers. Here are five of them. And I think that if you avoid these five mistakes at least most of the time then you can really improve your relationships, your communication skills and your life.

1. Bragging.

You may think bragging about your new car or what you make money wise will impress people. But consciously trying to impress anyone quickly becomes pretty apparent and transparent. And you are likely come a across as an annoying try-hard and insecure person with low self-esteem rather than the coolest kid in town.

2. Being judgemental.

Now, what I’m talking about here is being judgemental about what Paul does for a living, what Lisa defines as her unique fashion style and what Larry did in a drunken haze last weekend.

If you keep up such topics in conversation then soon the people you talk to will probably start to assume that you talk the same way about them when they are not around. And that can put a negative dent and barrier into your relationship.

Besides, being judgemental might make you feel superior for a short while. But overall, it puts negative energy into your own mood and thoughts. And that isn’t especially fun or useful.

3. Putting the spotlight on ME, ME, ME!

An obvious and obnoxious one. A couple of common ways to put the spot-light on yourself are:

• Talking too much.
• Hijacking someone else’s story by interrupting and then relating it to some anecdote in your life. Thereby taking the focus off the other person and on to yourself once again.
• Not really listening, just waiting for your turn to talk again.
• Trying to steer the conversation back to your favourite subjects. And then clinging desperately by talking about them as long as you can.

4. Always be giving advice.

I’ve been guilty of this so many times. :) And I think a lot of people don’t really realize that it might be something to hold back on a bit. If someone is telling you about a problem or situation then it’s easy to assume they want your point of view and advice. And it’s easy to feel clever by dispensing your wisdom.

But sometimes people just want to you to listen and hear them out. It might be a way for them to handle, understanding and solving their own problem. So just listen instead of busting out your problem-solving skills immediately. Assuming a parental role where you are telling what someone what to do can become irritating.

When they are done talking they might ask for your input. Or you can ask if they want to hear what you would do in a similar situation. Or if they want someone to bounce around thoughts and ideas with.

5. Worrying about making mistakes in conversations.

One big problem in conversations is to turn the focus of your mind too much inwards. As soon as you do that conversations stall, you can feel flustered and everything becomes awkward.

You can escape being worried about looking dumb and making mistakes by not focusing on it. Work on focusing your attention more and more outwards, towards the person you are talking to.

If you think you look dumb then it is probably because you were worried about it and became self-conscious. If you can decrease the worry you can decrease the time you feel self-conscious.

And if you aren’t self-conscious then you are far less likely to feel bad and affecting the conversation. Even if you said or did something that might be perceived as kinda dumb. If I’m not self-conscious then I have found that don’t react that badly to what I said/did (even if it was kinda dumb). Most of the time I just move on with the conversation and the people I’m talking to follows.

So, should you try to decrease the attention and focus you put on yourself?

Frankly, at the moment I find it more fun – and difficult – to forget about myself entirely. I just try to be and observe the reality around me. I focus on that. And not on myself (well, a little self-focus is hard to avoid but I try the best I can). It doesn’t work for that long, at least for now. But I find it more interesting experimenting and experiencing with that frame of mind.

3 Solutions for Better Relationships

Try to avoid doing these mistakes.

Don’t just sink into the regular unconscious routine of life. Try to be conscious and aware of how you think and what you say as much as possible. This will allow you to more easily observe your behaviour and bit by bit decrease the number of times you make these mistakes.

Replace your habits.

Since these mistakes quickly become habits you may not just be able to put a stop to them. Instead try a time-tested way for changing habits. Replace the habit rather than removing it. Instead of for instance judging people, try to see a positive side of everyone you meet for 30 days.

It might be hard, but there is just about always something positive in everyone. Adopting this new habit not only replaces a less useful one. It has the added benefit of improving your outlook on the world and can pretty radically change how you view your closest environment such as friends, family and co-workers.

Focus less on yourself.

All of these mistakes are pretty much rooted in being too focused on yourself and boosting your own ego. But you don’t have to keep on boosting your ego to feel good.

The most helpful way I have found so far for overcoming the ego boosting-addiction is by reading – and applying – something by Eckhart Tolle. He discusses the ego in-depth in his books/tapes/dvds and they are great ways to understanding how the ego works in your life and how to get a handle on it. Very useful information that improves your life once you start understanding and applying it.

Today I’d like to share a collection of the 130 best forgiveness quotes that I’ve discovered over the years.

I hope they will help you to forgive, let go and move on from hurt, resentment and anger. Away from feelings that may drag you down and thoughts that can slowly poison you and your outlook on life.

Because forgiving someone for what they said or did isn’t always easy – it can in my experience honestly be one of the harder things one can do – but it can also set you free and be something you need to do for no one but yourself to be able to fully move on with your life.

I think Catherine Ponder says it in a better way than I so let’s get started and begin with her quote on forgiveness.

Quotes on Forgiving Someone You Love

“When you hold resentment toward another, you are bound to that person or condition by an emotional link that is stronger than steel. Forgiveness is the only way to dissolve that link and get free.”
Catherine Ponder

“Forgiveness does not change the past, but it does enlarge the future.”
Paul Boose

“The act of forgiveness takes place in our own mind. It really has nothing to do with the other person.”
Louise Hay

“Always forgive your enemies – nothing annoys them so much.”
Oscar Wilde

“We read that we ought to forgive our enemies; but we do not read that we ought to forgive our friends.”
Sir. Francis Bacon

“Most of us can forgive and forget; we just don’t want the other person to forget that we forgave.”
Ivern Ball

“To forgive is the highest, most beautiful form of love. In return, you will receive untold peace and happiness.”
Robert Muller

“Not forgiving is like drinking rat poison and then waiting for the rat to die.”
Anne Lamott

“Before we can forgive one another, we have to understand one another.”
Emma Goldman

“Let us forgive each other – only then will we live in peace.”
Leo Nikolaevich Tolstoy

“True forgiveness is when you can say, “Thank you for that experience.”
Oprah Winfrey

“Once a woman has forgiven her man, she must not reheat his sins for breakfast.”
Marlene Dietrich

“Forgiveness is a sign that the person who has wronged you means more to you than the wrong they have dealt.”
Ben Greenhalgh

“Throughout life people will make you mad, disrespect you and treat you bad. Let God deal with the things they do, cause hate in your heart will consume you too.”
Will Smith

“The stupid neither forgive nor forget; the naive forgive and forget; the wise forgive but do not forget.”
Thomas Szasz

“A happy marriage is the union of two good forgivers.”
Robert Quillen

“Forgiveness isn’t approving what happened. It’s choosing to rise above it.”
Robin Sharma

“If you can’t forgive and forget, pick one.”
Robert Brault

“There is no love without forgiveness, and there is no forgiveness without love.”
Bryant H. McGill

“Be the one who nurtures and builds. Be the one who has an understanding and a forgiving heart one who looks for the best in people. Leave people better than you found them.”
Marvin J. Ashton

“To be wronged is nothing, unless you continue to remember it.”
Confucius

You may also find this post filled with I’m sorry quotes helpful.

Quotes on the Power of Forgiveness

“Resentment is like drinking poison and then hoping it will kill your enemies.”
Nelson Mandela

“The weak can never forgive. Forgiveness is the attribute of the strong.”
Mahatma Gandhi

“Without forgiveness life is governed by an endless cycle of resentment and retaliation.”
Roberto Assagioli

“Forgiveness is the sweetest revenge.”
Isaac Friedmann

“True forgiveness is not an action after the fact, it is an attitude with which you enter each moment.”
David Ridge

“Forgiveness is a gift you give yourself.”
Tony Robbins

“Forgiveness is like faith. You have to keep reviving it.”
Mason Cooley

“Forgiveness is the key to action and freedom.”
Hannah Arendt

“Forgiveness is the fragrance that the violet sheds on the heel that has crushed it.”
Mark Twain

“The remarkable thing is that we really love our neighbour as ourselves: we do unto others as we do unto ourselves. We hate others when we hate ourselves. We are tolerant toward others when we tolerate ourselves. We forgive others when we forgive ourselves. We are prone to sacrifice others when we are ready to sacrifice ourselves.”
Eric Hoffer

“The practice of forgiveness is our most important contribution to the healing of the world.”
Marianne Williamson

“I have always found that mercy bears richer fruits than strict justice.”
Abraham Lincoln

“A broken friendship that is mended through forgiveness can be even stronger than it once was.”
Stephen Richards

“Anger makes you smaller, while forgiveness forces you to grow beyond what you were.”
Cherie Carter-Scott

“To err is human, to forgive, divine.”
Alexander Pope

“Forgiveness is a funny thing. It warms the heart and cools the sting.”
William Arthur Ward

“Forgiveness is not an occasional act, it is a constant attitude.”
Martin Luther King Jr.

“It is easier to forgive an enemy than to forgive a friend.”
William Blake

“Forgiveness is the key to inner peace because it is the mental technique by which our thoughts are transformed from fear to love.”
Marianne Williamson

“As I walked out the door toward the gate that would lead to my freedom, I knew if I didn’t leave my bitterness and hatred behind, I’d still be in prison.”
Nelson Mandela

Have a look at this post with broken trust quotes and this one with betrayal quotes for more timeless insights and wisdom.

Forgiveness Quotes to Help You to Let Go

“Letting go doesn’t mean that you don’t care about someone anymore. It’s just realizing that the only person you really have control over is yourself.”
Deborah Reber

“As long as you don’t forgive, who and whatever it is will occupy a rent-free space in your mind.”
Isabelle Holland

“Why do people persist in a dissatisfying relationship, unwilling either to work toward solutions or end it and move on? It’s because they know changing will lead to the unknown, and most people believe that the unknown will be much more painful than what they’re already experiencing.”
Anthony Robbins

“Laughter gives us distance. It allows us to step back from an event, deal with it and then move on.”
Bob Newhart

“Forgiveness is the giving, and so the receiving, of life.”
George MacDonald

“Don’t dwell on what went wrong. Instead, focus on what to do next. Spend your energy moving forward together towards an answer.”
Denis Waitley

“You don’t need strength to let go of something. What you really need is understanding.”
Guy Finley

“When we go back in to the past and rake up all the troubles we’ve had, we end up reeling and staggering through life. Stability and peace of mind come by living in the moment.”
Pam W. Vredevelt

“Stop acting as if life is a rehearsal. Live this day as if it were your last. The past is over and gone. The future is not guaranteed.”
Wayne Dyer

“Forgiveness is the final form of love.”
Reinhold Niebuhr

“Let go. Why do you cling to pain? There is nothing you can do about the wrongs of yesterday. It is not yours to judge. Why hold on to the very thing which keeps you from hope and love?”
Leo Buscaglia

“We think that forgiveness is weakness, but it’s absolutely not; it takes a very strong person to forgive.”
T. D. Jakes

“Forgiveness is the most important thing. We all have to forgive what was done to us – the Irish people have to forgive. The African people. The Jewish people. We all have to forgive and understand the only way to stop the cycle of hate and abuse is not to allow yourself to get caught in it.”
Sinead O’Connor

“To forgive is to set a prisoner free and discover that the prisoner was you.”
Lewis B. Smedes

“To be a Christian means to forgive the inexcusable because God has forgiven the inexcusable in you.”
C.S. Lewis

“We must be willing to let go of the life we’ve planned, so as to have the life that is waiting for us.”
Joseph Campbell

“It’s not an easy journey, to get to a place where you forgive people. But it is such a powerful place, because it frees you.”
Tyler Perry

“When you forgive, you in no way change the past – but you sure do change the future.”
Bernard Meltzer

“Forgiveness is not about the other person or what they did. Forgiveness is for YOU and about YOU.”
Iyanla Vanzant

“Forgive others not because they deserve forgiveness, but because you deserve peace.”
Jonathan Huie

“Forgiveness is a powerful expression of the love within our soul.”
Anthony Douglas

“It’s one of the greatest gifts you can give yourself, to forgive. Forgive everybody.”
Maya Angelou

“Forgive your enemies, but never forget their names.”
John F. Kennedy

“I can forgive, but I cannot forget, is only another way of saying, I will not forgive. Forgiveness ought to be like a cancelled note – torn in two, and burned up, so that it never can be shown against one.”
Henry Ward Beecher

“Forgiveness is the most effective way of dealing with arguments; altruism and forgiveness bring humanity together so that no conflict, however serious, will go beyond the bounds of what is truly human.”
Dalai Lama

“Sometimes the first step to forgiveness is understanding that the other person is a complete idiot.”
Unknown

“Forgiveness is a virtue of the brave.”
Indira Gandhi

“Forgiving does not erase the bitter past. A healed memory is not a deleted memory. Instead, forgiving what we cannot forget creates a new way to remember. We change the memory of our past into a hope for our future.”
Lewis B. Smedes

“Genuine forgiveness is participation, reunion overcoming the powers of estrangement. . . We cannot love unless we have accepted forgiveness, and the deeper our experience of forgiveness is, the greater is our love.”
Paul Tillich

“Never forget the three powerful resources you always have available to you: love, prayer, and forgiveness.”’
H. Jackson Brown Jr.

“Forgiveness is the best form of love. It takes a strong person to say sorry, and an even stronger person to forgive.”
Unknown

“When I talk of forgiveness I mean the belief that you can come out the other side … a better person than the one being consumed by anger and hatred. Remaining in that state locks you in a state of victimhood, making you almost dependent on the perpetrator. If you can find it in yourself to forgive then you are no longer chained to the perpetrator. You can move on.”
Desmond Tutu

“You can clutch the past so tightly to your chest that it leaves your arms too full to embrace the present.”
Jan Glidewell

Wise Forgiveness Quotes

“To understand is to forgive, even oneself.”
Alexander Chase

“Inner peace can be reached only when we practice forgiveness. Forgiveness is letting go of the past, and is, therefore, the means for correcting our misperceptions.”
Gerald G. Jampolsky

“Forgiveness has nothing to do with absolving a criminal of his crime. It has everything to do with relieving oneself of the burden of being a victim–letting go of the pain and transforming oneself from victim to survivor.”
C.R. Strahan

“Forgiveness is the economy of the heart… forgiveness saves the expense of anger, the cost of hatred, the waste of spirits.”
Hannah More

“I think the first step is to understand that forgiveness does not exonerate the perpetrator. Forgiveness liberates the victim. It’s a gift you give yourself.”
T.D. Jakes

“Forgiveness is not weak. It takes courage to face and overcome powerful emotions.”
Desmond Tutu

“Forgiveness does not mean ignoring what has been done or putting a false label on an evil act. It means, rather, that the evil act no longer remains as a barrier to the relationship. Forgiveness is a catalyst creating the atmosphere necessary for a fresh start and a new beginning.”
Martin Luther King Jr.

“These are the few ways we can practice humility:
To speak as little as possible of one’s self.
To mind one’s own business.
Not to want to manage other people’s affairs.
To avoid curiosity.
To accept contradictions and correction cheerfully.
To pass over the mistakes of others.
To accept insults and injuries.
To accept being slighted, forgotten and disliked.
To be kind and gentle even under provocation.
Never to stand on one’s dignity.
To choose always the hardest.”
Mother Teresa

“Forgiveness is giving up the hope that the past could have been any different.”
Oprah Winfrey

“I think that if God forgives us we must forgive ourselves. Otherwise, it is almost like setting up ourselves as a higher tribunal than Him.”
C.S. Lewis

“We are all on a life long journey and the core of its meaning, the terrible demand of its centrality is forgiving and being forgiven.”
Martha Kilpatrick

“Forgiveness is a strange thing. It can sometimes be easier to forgive our enemies than our friends. It can be hardest of all to forgive people we love.”
Fred Rogers

“I want to be the kind of person who can do that. Move on and forgive people and be healthy and happy. It seems like an easy thing to do in my head. But it’s not so easy when you try it in real life.”
Susane Colasanti

“The good you do today will be forgotten tomorrow. Do good anyway.”
Kent M. Keith

“People have to forgive. We don’t have to like them, we don’t have to be friends with them, we don’t have to send them hearts in text messages, but we have to forgive them, to overlook, to forget. Because if we don’t we are tying rocks to our feet, too much for our wings to carry!”
C. JoyBell C.

“Forgiveness must be immediate, whether or not a person asks for it. Trust must be rebuilt over time. Trust requires a track record.”
Rick Warren

“Life is grace. Sleep is forgiveness. The night absolves. Darkness wipes the slate clean, not spotless to be sure, but clean enough for another day’s chalking.”
Frederick Buechner

“You can’t forgive without loving. And I don’t mean sentimentality. I don’t mean mush. I mean having enough courage to stand up and say, ‘I forgive. I’m finished with it’.”
Maya Angelou

Be sure to also check out this post with plenty of inner peace quotes.

Other Forgiveness Quotes and Sayings

“Any fool knows men and women think differently at times, but the biggest difference is this. Men forget, but never forgive; women forgive, but never forget.”
Robert Jordan

“I guess forgiveness, like happiness, isn’t a final destination. You don’t one day get there and get to stay.”
Deb Caletti

“Do as the heavens have done, forget your evil; With them forgive yourself.”
William Shakespeare

“I have learned that the person I have to ask for forgiveness from the most is: myself. You must love yourself. You have to forgive yourself, every day, whenever you remember a shortcoming, a flaw, you have to tell yourself “That’s just fine”. You have to forgive yourself so much, until you don’t even see those things anymore. Because that’s what love is like.”
C. JoyBell C.

“We are told that people stay in love because of chemistry, or because they remain intrigued with each other, because of many kindnesses, because of luck. But part of it has got to be forgiveness and gratefulness.”
Ellen Goodman

“I’m sorry about yesterday,” she said. He hung on to his straps and shrugged. “Yesterday happens.”
Rainbow Rowell

“Forgiveness in no way requires that you trust the one you forgive.”
Paul Young

“He who cannot forgive breaks the bridge over which he himself must pass.”
George Herbert

“Forgiveness is an act of the will, and the will can function regardless of the temperature of the heart.”
Corrie Ten Boom

“Let’s shake free this gravity of judgment, and fly high on the wings of forgiveness.”
India Arie Simpson

“When you forgive, you love. And when you love, God’s light shines upon you.”
Jon Krakauer

“Grudges are for those who insist that they are owed something; forgiveness, however, is for those who are substantial enough to move on.”
Criss Jami

“It is important that we forgive ourselves for making mistakes. We need to learn from our errors and move on.”
Steve Maraboli

“If he can’t handle you at your worst then he does not deserve you at your best. Real love means seeing beyond the words spoken out of pain, and instead seeing a person’s soul.”
Shannon L. Alder

“If you are successful, you will win false friends and true enemies. Succeed anyway.”
Kent M. Keith

“Sincere forgiveness isn’t colored with expectations that the other person apologize or change. Don’t worry whether or not they finally understand you. Love them and release them. Life feeds back truth to people in its own way and time-just like it does for you and me.”
Sara Paddison

“Getting over a painful experience is much like crossing monkey bars. You have to let go at some point in order to move forward.”
C.S. Lewis

“Forgiveness says you are given another chance to make a new beginning.”
Desmond Tutu

You may also find these quotes on letting go useful to move on.

Short Forgiveness Quotes

“Forgiveness liberates the soul. It removes fear. That is why it is such a powerful weapon.”
Nelson Mandela

“Always forgive, but never forget, else you will be a prisoner of your own hatred, and doomed to repeat your mistakes forever.”
Wil Zeus

“Forgiveness is the best revenge.”
Imam Ali

“Forgiveness is above all a personal choice, a decision of the heart to go against natural instinct to pay back evil with evil.”
Pope John Paul II

“Sometimes you just have to regret things and move on.”
Charlaine Harris

“Forgiveness means it finally becomes unimportant that you hit back.”
Anne Lamott

“People favor underdogs but follow only top dogs. Fight for a few underdogs anyway.”
Kent M. Keith

“What I cannot love, I overlook.”
Anaïs Nin

“Genuine forgiveness does not deny anger but faces it head-on.”
Alice Duer Miller

“I could easily forgive his pride, if he had not mortified mine.”
Jane Austen

“Everyone says forgiveness is a lovely idea, until they have something to forgive.”
C.S. Lewis

“Life is an adventure in forgiveness.”
Norman Cousins

“If you do well, people will accuse you of selfish ulterior motives. Do well anyway.”
Unknown

“Pray you now, forget and forgive.”
William Shakespeare

“One of the keys to happiness is a bad memory.”
Rita Mae Brown

“Take forgiveness slowly. Don’t blame yourself for being slow. Peace will come.”
Yoko Ono

“A life lived without forgiveness is a prison.”
William Arthur Ward