
“A pessimist sees the difficulty in every opportunity; an optimist sees the opportunity in every difficulty.”
Winston Churchill
Optimism.
It can turn a situation that looks negative or bleak into an opportunity or something to learn from.
It can replace the draining thoughts of pessimism with something that will create more positive energy and enthusiasm again.
And it can help you to jump over obstacles, to keep moving when you fall or stumble and to not give up just because you have had a couple of temporary setbacks.
So not just adding more of it to your own life but to the lives of the people in your world too is a good idea.
Because in the long run you tend to get what you give.
And in the short run, well, you get to enjoy the smiles when you create and spread that positivity. Plus, you’ll boost your own self-esteem when you feel you are doing the right thing.
Here are 10 simple tips that can help you to get started with that.
1. Play music with positive energy.
Uplifting music is of course a great way to boost your own mood and open up new perspectives again.
You can do the same for people around you. Put on a really positive song when you are hanging out. Or send them an uplifting playlist for Spotify or a similar service.
2. Just be there for someone.
Listen and lend the optimistic and grounded perspective to someone in your life in need of it.
At first I find it best to just the let other person vent, to let him or her get issue at hand out into the light. So I am just there fully and listening.
Oftentimes this might be enough. Because just being there will help him or her to let the emotional tension out and to analyze the issue and to find a solution or to let it go.
If she or he gets stuck in negative thinking or in making a mountain out of a molehill then it can be helpful to add your own perspective to ground him or her and to help shift perspective on the situation.
To make him or her see that if you zoom out then things aren’t that bad really. And together the two of you might be able to find a solution or a first step that he or she can put into action.
3. Take 30-60 seconds to give a genuine compliment.
Think about one thing that makes the other person tick. A small or bigger passion. Or something good that people too often take for granted about him or her.
And then give a compliment about that. It often means more than you might guess.
4. Smile.
A smile puts you and the people around you into a better and more relaxed headspace.
It works even when you don’t feel that much like smiling.
If you like, do a brief experiment. Force a smile for 30 seconds or a minute if you are feeling a bit negative and see what happens to your mood.
5. Hide a secret note.
Take 60 seconds out of your day to write and hide a note with a compliment. Or some encouraging words. Or make it a note of thankfulness.
Hide it under their pillow, in the lunch box or wallet or perhaps the book he or she is reading at this time.
6. Help someone to wind down.
Being busy with work or school can over time add a lot of tension and stress. And that can certainly get in the way of optimistic and constructive thinking.
So help someone in your life to wind down.
Suggest going for a picnic. Just have fun and perhaps go for swim in the nearby lake or ocean. Then lie together in silence on the blanket and watch the clouds go by for a while.
A break like this can do wonders for the mood and perspective for the both of you.
7. Cook or bring their favorite food.
If she’s having a bad day then cook her favorite meal. Or get her favorite takeout food.
Or maybe just a small treat, like a piece of the chocolate or the special cupcake she loves the most.
8. Hug.
A hug is, perhaps often even more than a smile, something that can make someone feel a little better and a bit safer again. Use it when appropriate of course.
But don’t underestimate the effect of it and how that little nudge can turn someone’s thoughts around towards something brighter and more positive again.
9. Share what you’ve found or made.
It could delicious fruit that you’ve picked. Or the jam, cookies or bread you made. Or fish you’ve smoked or the beef you made jerky out of.
Such a simple but loving gift can really mean a lot and add positive energy to someone’s whole week or month.
10. Pay it forward.
If someone in your life adds a bit of optimism and positive energy to your life then don’t just return it somewhere down the line.
Pay it forward to someone else too.
And together build a growing upward spiral of optimism, encouragement and kindness.
Henrik Edberg is the creator of the Positivity Blog and has written weekly articles here since 2006. He has a bachelor’s degree in journalism from the University of Gothenburg and has been featured on Lifehacker, HuffPost and Paulo Coelho’s blog.
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I live by most of these. I will have to add the secret note in my hubbies and kids lunch kits.
Your tips are very helpful because they are doable. Thank you for sharing very generously
Hey Henrik – lovely post – liked ‘hide a secret note’ – I’ll definitely give that a go.
A bit helpful
Oh my man what a post very interesting in did
I a really like you post my man and always I shere it with my dearly friend on whatsup
Very inspirational. Thank you
Very uncomplicated, thought provoking and realistic words to encourage yourself or others who are feeling stuck.
I really like the sentence about just listening, too often we want to take their pain away and by telling them the best thing to do (in our opinion) -whilst kind, it may not allow the person to make their own decisions therefore not empowering them a to seek their own solutions or alternatives in that instance and future situations.
Being heard without a personal interpretation of the situation allows them to air their frustrations and initial thoughts, in doing that I think it gets the mind to seek solutions.
Very worth publication.
Enjoying your emails, thank you
Ronda
this blog is really amazing, it really support and motivate my day, looking forward to this kind of website that can boost up my spirit every single day!
Very Very Relisistic approach, Good to see at one place.
Dear Henrik,
Nice post. I have some comments on No 2. Play positive music. Actually, music is a medium to release your feelings and emotions. Each type has its own effect. Does your statement conveys that if music is negative, you become a pessimist?
Optimism and pessimism are both a way of mind. Both are contagious and creates ambiance around yourself.
Once you get into pessimism mood, be alone and show your frustration, anger, tears, energy on some inanimate objects, till you get completely exhausted.
Then, come out free from that negative mood and you will find a sense of positive which you can share.
Similarly, even you are positive, you can meet a pessimist. Then most oven the negative aura prevails unless you are strongly optimist.
Avoid such personality unless unavoidable.
Thanks and regards
Thank you, Henrik, this is what I need… I am a person who is driven by happiness but crippled by negativity…and I am surrounded by negativity right now…
IT WAS INSPIRING. THANK YOU
I’ve found that the quote, “Be the reason someone smiles today” a good way to begin each day on a positive note; it sums up your illuminating article.
Thank you for your inspiring words!
Excellent advise! Planning a very happy day?
Good stuff ! Very nice article, we all could use a little help staying positive !
Thanks !