3 Simple Habits for Daily Mindfulness

3 Simple Habits for Daily Mindfulness

“Do not dwell in the past, do not dream of the future, concentrate the mind on the present moment.”

“The best way to capture moments is to pay attention. This is how we cultivate mindfulness. Mindfulness means being awake. It means knowing what you are doing.”
Jon Kabat-Zinn

One of the most common habits that make life miserable is to not be where you are.

What do I mean by that?

That your body is right here, right now. But that your thoughts are elsewhere in time and space.

They are in the past, reliving an old, painful memory. Or replaying an argument – that you still want to win – for the hundredth time.

Or your thoughts are in a possible future. Worried and stressed about what may happen at work or in your relationship. Or trying to plan for every possible scenario and through that hoping to fully control the future.

And the more time you spend in the future or past, the more you – in my experience – tend to also:

  • Be ineffective. Making decisions becomes very hard if you second-guess yourself all the time or become paralyzed by all the possible outcomes. And overthinking zaps so much energy that you lose motivation to take action.
  • Miss life as it happens. If you are not fully here in this moment then it is very easy to miss and to not fully enjoy a victory or simply a beautiful, fun or small moment in life.

Maybe you cannot spend all of your time in the now. Because there are things you can learn from reexamining your past. And there are things you sometimes need to plan for in your future.

But the kind of obsessive or addictive way to spend so much time in a regular week in the past or future can be replaced with something smarter, more helpful and happiness-friendly.

Three habits that have helped me a lot to make that shift into being much more mindful are to:

1. Slow down.

Start your day with doing whatever you do first in your morning slowly.

This will make it easier and more natural to keep a slower pace and to focus fully on what you are doing for the rest of your morning.

And starting your day in this way will often prevent you from going into your own most common thought loops that cause worry, anger or sadness.

Plus, doing something in a calm and relaxed manner is often the quickest way to do something well.

And you can of course slow down what you are doing at any time during your day to get your mind back to what your body is doing.

2. Tell yourself: Now I am…

I often tell myself this silently in my mind: Now I am X.

And X could be that I am brushing my teeth. Doing the dishes. Taking a walk and listening to the sounds around me.

Just reminding myself of this helps my mind to stop wandering and it brings my focus back to just that one thing I am doing right now and nothing else.

3. Disrupt your thoughts + quickly reconnect with the here and now.

If you are a regular reader then you know that I like to use a stop-word or phrase to silence the inner critic.

This works well for getting back to the present moment too.

When you catch yourself going somewhere else in the past or future with your thoughts then – in your mind – shout: STOP!

Or: No, no, no, we are not going down that road again!

Then, right away after you have disrupted those thoughts find your way back to the present moment by either focusing only on what is going on around you right now with all your senses – the sights, the sounds, the smells and so on – or by focusing 100% on your breaths going in and out of your body.

Do either of those things for just 1-2 minutes.


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  • Cheryl

    The reminder to be in the here and now is powerful and important. To slow down at wake up time is something I will try. Thank you for the positivity and helpfulness .

  • Julius

    I think I need this more. Hoping the ideas will work in my life

  • Anonymous

    Awesome thank you.

  • Marie

    I always read your articles Find them helpful, positive and uplifting
    I really liked this one a lot
    Thank you !

  • Riza

    Thanks for this wonderful article, I know I needed somebody to say stop worrying and stop for being sad, its time to live right now, right here….

    • Erica

      I sure hope this works. I have a tendency of living in the past and future and never the present its agonizing.

  • shreyasee

    Very helpful article easy to apply. Thank u for sharing..

  • Justin

    Great advice. Your blog is so helpful. Thanks.

  • It’s quite amazing how often we forget to just live in the moment. We are so distracted by a long list of to dos that we forget just slow down and focus on what’s right in front of us. We will miss the most important moments of life if we don’t do this. Thank you for this great post!

  • Asanande

    thank you for this wonderful article.. i hope it will help me out

  • Great tips, Henrik.
    I really need to slow down sometimes. I feel like there are so many things to do and so little time available.
    When I slow down and take my time to immerse myself in writing my article, I will be able to produce better and more quality content.
    I believe the same goes for you.
    Thanks for this great article. :)

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  • Emmanuel Nimo

    I appreciate your articles a lot. The one I read today was really inspiring and it did move me all day. I am looking forward to read more. Thanks.

  • I never tried number two before. Sounds like a great way to stay in the present. Will try that starting now. Thanks Henrik!

  • This thing’s are really helpful in my life.