“When you arise in the morning, think of what a precious privilege it is to be alive – to breathe, to think, to enjoy, to love.”
Marcus Aurelius
The alarm bell goes off. You slowly open your eyes.
A new day lies before you.
A day of unexplored potential and opportunities. How can you make it more likely to become a positive and good day?
Today I’d like to simply share 7 habits that I have used to make my mornings and whole days better.
1. Have a reminder on your bedside table.
How will you start your very first moments and minutes of the day?
One good way to get off to a good start is to have a note, a reminder on your bedside table that will be one of the first things you see after you have woken up.
A couple of suggestions for what to write down on your note:
A low bar for happiness.
Write down: “Today I will set a low bar for happiness”. Read it and try to keep it in mind during the day.
This one helps me to appreciate things more.
The food, my work, the weather, the people and the small events of the day becomes not everyday stuff but something I feel happy to have. The small things or what may be something one takes for granted becomes something I now often pause for a moment or two to take in and appreciate.
Your top 3 priorities in life right now.
To keep your attention in the right place it is essential to remind yourself every day of what is truly most important.
So what is most important for you this year? A project at work? Your family? Improving your social life? Your blog, photography, soccer or debt?
Think about it and reduce what is important in your life to the top 3 most important priorities.
2. Give one genuine compliment.
Giving one genuine compliment to your partner, a family member, friend or co-worker during your morning can not only lift his or her day but also make yours a little brighter and happier.
So tap into what you can appreciate about a person in your life. Then tell him or her that.
If you can, make it something that may be a bit unexpected and something that person hasn’t heard a hundred times before.
For example, a compliment about her great taste in music or his wonderful way with animals may be more appreciated and powerful than a compliment about looks and other more superficial stuff.
3. Positive information intake over breakfast.
Instead of watching the news or reading the papers and getting a negative and perhaps depressing start to your day do something that will inspire you.
- Read one or a couple of new posts from positive, funny and uplifting blogs or websites.
- Read a chapter from a book that inspires you (or a handful of quotes that motivate you).
- Or simply have a fun and warm conversation with the people around your kitchen table.
4. Start your workday with your most important task of the day.
If you do then the rest of the day will feel lighter and easier. You will feel better about yourself and more confident as you move on to other tasks.
If you have trouble getting started with the most important task then just make a deal with yourself to work on it for 3 minutes. Then you can stop if you like.
But you may not want to once you have gotten started. That seems to be the case for me most of the time.
Getting started is most often the hardest part. So make that part easier for yourself.
5. Go slow.
When I go a bit slower it becomes easier to fully focus, to keep the stress down and I most often do a better job with something the first time around.
I work with more clarity and I do not get stuck in doing busy work very often.
It may feel like I’m not getting enough done but at the end of the day I usually get more quality work done than if I tried to maintain a high speed throughout the day.
Partly because the lower stress levels keeps my mind fresh and energy up even through the last few afternoon hours of the workday.
Try going a bit slower. See how it works for you.
6. Work out.
Often mentioned and for a good reason. It has many positive benefits.
I workout several times a week and by doing so I boost my energy, inner doubts and tensions lessen, I feel more decisive and my mind becomes more optimistic.
And all of that makes the rest of the day lighter.
I highly recommend doing some kind of exercise in the morning. If you can’t go to a gym or work out from home early in the day then maybe you can walk or bicycle to work or school.
7. Do the right thing in some small or big way.
This one boosts your self-esteem. It puts a spring in your step and it at least makes me feel happier.
So do what you deep down think is the right thing.
A few examples that may resonate with you:
- Perform a random act of kindness. Hold up the door or point out the way for someone who seems lost.
- Help someone out practically or just by listening.
- Get started with putting a dent in the most important challenge in your life.
Build upon just a small step, a small thing if you like. Start building an upward spiral of positivity and good feelings within. And then take further steps upward.
Towards what you know you really want and you know are the right things for you in your life.
Henrik Edberg is the creator of the Positivity Blog and has written weekly articles here since 2006. He has a bachelor’s degree in journalism from the University of Gothenburg and has been featured on Lifehacker, HuffPost and Paulo Coelho’s blog.
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I love your articles Henrik! As everyone, I have some problems and flaws (I am especially overthinking and overanalyzing everything, mainly my health. I have had several health problems, nothing serious, but I find it difficult to stop overthinking and being anxious about health. This holds me from living my life to the fullest, as I spend a lot of time thinking about many things).
It is not easy to change these habits but your articles ready remind me of what is important, how to get better and how important is it to be positive – for me, as I was accustomed to being negative and pessimistic, this is actually the hardest part. I tell myself that being positive is important, that I will be more happy as a positive person but I just can’t stop these negative thoughts. I know that nobody is always positive but do you have some advice to how to “overwrite” the bad habits of pessimism and negativity with new habits of positivity – I find it hard, as an overthinker, to just enjoy every day, without stressing over things.
However, as I said, your articles are really helpful as they remind me of what life should be about. I am your fan, you are doing a wonderful job!
Thank you! I guess you made my day in a row of pretty doubtful days recently.
I aim to reconnect better with what my priorities are and you remind me of how essential and poweful it will be. Something that really works for me , btw, is to first smile when you wake up.no matter what. Much love and peace to you
Great Post…Keep it up!
Blessings,
Carol
your article is right on time for me…I especially like and will begin tonight with my list to have by my bedside. I believe that reading it in the morNing will definitely give me the motivation that I need to keep facing the tough but necessary challenge that’s in my life right now. And that quote is superb as well! Thanks!
Thank you for the wonderful and practical suggestions to start my day. This will make the mid-week slump easier to face. I enjoy and appreciate all of your uplifting posts.
Thank you for your emails that brighten my day and help me to be positive!
A low bar -> Prioritize and Compliment! Sounds good.
A well put post Henrik. Loved it.
Thanks a lot. Cheers :)
I love this post.. very helpful and things I will add to my daily routine. Thank you! :)
Amazing piece Henrik! Usually my low bar is a note book with teachings from Joyce Meyer and Joel Osteen and a Bible. But the suggested habits are good alternatives
Awesome thanks :)
this piece has just brightened my day.it has shown to me that our success and leading a fruitful life is dependant on the ineer happiness that we have.i am grateful and have no doubts that i made the best decision by actually following your posts,this is very good and may god bless you
all the way from Lesotho
This blog post is the first thing I am reading this morning and before even getting through reading #1 my thought was this…I wonder if Henrik even knows that his posts and courses are helping, enjoyed and appreciated by someone as far away as Ohio USA. Thanks so much and have a great day! :)
this has really helped me an my day today life i am happy God bless
Reading the positivity blog, made me appreciate the small things in life that I sometimes take for granted, Encourages you to look at things in a different way. Makes you feel more uplifted and happier
Thank you !
“Build upon just a small step, a small thing if you like. Start building an upward spiral of positivity and good feelings within. And then take further steps upward.” – This great advice and it reminds me of a short blog on the same topic. http://www.oughtofbusiness.com/2014/07/09/next-right-step/
Check it out and lets all focus on the next right step.