“There is only one time that is important – NOW! It is the most important time because it is the only time that we have any power.”
“I never think of the future. It comes soon enough.”
“The secret of health for both mind and body is not to mourn for the past, nor to worry about the future, but to live the present moment wisely and earnestly.”
I have written quite a bit about being present and how it can help you.
Today I'd like to list seven of my favorite benefits of being present. Many of them relate to or blend into one another.
Now, being present is quite hard to keep up. You slip back into not being present. And that's OK. Don't beat yourself up.
Just accept that you are not present and you'll feel better and more relaxed. Then it will be easier to slip back into the present moment again. Just like with anything, going for perfection often just leads to anxiety, self-doubts and beating yourself up.
Going for consistency and improving your consistency gradually – slipping back into old habits less and less – is more useful.
Also, being present isn't a magic pill that will solve all your problems or “fix you”. But like regular exercise, it can be helpful in several ways.
1. Improved social skills.
This may be one of the first things you discover when you start experimenting with being present. It was for me. If you have the problem that you get nervous/shy and don't know what to say in a conversation then presence is one solution.
When you are present your head is no longer filled with past scenarios (“what did she mean when she said that?”) or future scenarios (“what will they think if say this?”). You let go off self-consciousness.
You are just here. With your attention focused outward towards the person(s) you are interacting with. You just let things flow out of you.
And in a way tip of assuming rapport is a way to tap into your presence in conversations. Assuming rapport means that you pretend that you are meeting one of your best friends. Then you start the interaction in that frame of mind instead of the nervous one.
When you're with your best friends you are probably not thinking ahead that much. You are just enjoying the interaction, the present moment and all of you just let things flow naturally.
Presence can also help you with listening. It helps you to decrease the bad habit of thinking about the future and what you should say next while trying to listen.
If you are present and really there while listening then that will also come through in your body language, which gives the person talking a vibe and feeling that you are really listening to what s/he has to say.
Being present also improves your focus and allows you to better tune out possible interruptions or distractions in your surroundings.
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2. Improved creativity.
If you write or do some other creative work you may have found that your best work flows out of you when you are not thinking that much.
You just write, paint, play.
You enter a state where things just come to you. Then later you can come back and edit your work.
This one is similar to the first reason. Writing is for instance similar to a conversation.
When you are present in a conversation or while writing things it's often best to not think to far ahead or you start to get self-conscious and second-guessing yourself. You create mental blocks that stop your creativity from flowing unhindered.
3. You appreciate your world more.
One of big advantages of becoming more present in your everyday life is that you decrease the amount of analyzing and labeling you do to the things/people in your surroundings. You don't judge as much.
This might sound strange but in the moments when you are present the ordinary world becomes more interesting and wonderful.
Colors can seem brighter. Your see more aliveness in trees, nature and in people. You see the wonder of all your man-made gadgets and stuff. Things that most often seem common, routine and boring become fascinating and something you can appreciate.
It's like you are observing your world with more clarity and curiousness. Like a little kid again, discovering things while they still feel fresh. Before they have just become walking, talking and growing labels with years of associations and thoughts attached.
Before you actually use this tip though – if you just think about it in your mind – it may not make that much sense.
4. Stress release.
When you are present there is a certain stillness and centeredness inside. You calm down. If you are feeling stressed during your normal day then one of my favorite ways to let that go is to take belly breaths and just focus on them for a minute or two.
This pretty much always calms me down. The breathing with belly seems to calm one down in a physical way. And by focusing just on the in and out-breaths you connect to the present moment instead of the past or future scenarios that are making you feel stressed.
5. Less worry-warting and overthinking.
If you are a chronic overthinker that goes round and round in circles in your mind before you ever get anything done then being present is a great release from that habit. I'm not saying that you won't slip back into overthinking.
But being present just for a while can help you. It can allow you to stop worrying about what may happen and just take some action to get started. To actually see what happens.
This is perhaps the best benefit.
Being present removes the labels you put on people and things – temporarily – and opens you up to see and experience things without your preconceived notions. I think this is a big part in how being present helps you in conversations and with your creativity.
You are open to new things as you are without many of your barriers within your mind. Things can flow easier through you without all that stuff in the way.
You make things easy on yourself in way. And you often get better results at the same time.
As you are present you may feel a playfulness arise. This makes it easier to just do things. When you see things from a playful point of view things become less of a struggle created from within. You let go of that heavy, overthinking frame of mind.
Everything won't become super easy to do. But many things become more enjoyable and easier to do. They become lighter. Less of a burden.
Kids are often more present and playful. You can return to that playfulness by connecting with the present.
The top 3 ways to slip into the present moment
There are quite a few ways to return to the present. You can try a bunch of them out and see which one(s) that works best for you. My three favorites at the moment are:
Focus on your breath.
I mentioned this one above.
Focus on what's right in front of you.
Or around you. Or on you. Use your senses. Just look at what's right in front of you right now. Listen to the sounds around you. Feel the fabric of your clothes and focus on how they feel. You can for instance use the summer sun or rain and how it feels on your skin to connect with the present.
Pick up the vibe from present people.
If you know someone that is more present than most people then you can pick his/her vibe of presence (just like you can pick up positivity or enthusiasm from people).
If you don't know someone like that I recommend listening to/watching cds/dvds by Eckhart Tolle like Stillness Speaks or The Flowering of Consciousness. His books work too.
But cds/dvds are better than books for picking up someone's vibe since the biggest part of communication is voice tonality and body language.