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The 4 Sneaky Traps of Having Heroes

The 4 Sneaky Traps of Having Heroes
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“I claim to be a simple individual liable to err like any other fellow mortal. I own, however, that I have humility enough to confess my errors and to retrace my steps.”
Mahatma Gandhi

Many people have heroes in their lives. Heroes can be helpful to get inspiration and they can provide you with valuable information if they have already walked the path you are on.

But there are also a few downsides with having heroes. Or at least with putting them on too high of a pedestal. Something I think is pretty common and can be helpful at first. But, as you move forward it can become an obstacle for you.

Here are four reasons to be careful with your heroes. 

1. They might not live up to your image of them.

What Would Winnie the Pooh Do?

What Would Winnie the Pooh Do?“Successful people ask better questions, and as a result, they get better answers.”
Anthony Robbins

Your mind like answers. It seems like whatever you ask it, it will find answers for.

So it becomes very important to ask yourself the right questions. Questions that will help you out rather than just make you feel more miserable and helpless.

I have already written a bit about this and listed some of my favourite questions.

Questions like: “What’s awesome about this?” and “Will this matter 5 years from now?”

Another favourite goes something like this: “What would X do?” X being whoever inspiring figure you want it to be. It’s a great way to shift perspective in a situation and find a more useful frame of mind.

For example, the non-conformist and rebel might ask: “What would Tyler Durden do?”

Me, I like Winnie the Pooh.

What would Winnie the Pooh do?

5 Great Ways to Create a More Productive Workspace

5 Great Ways to Create a More Productive Workspace
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Note: This is a guestpost by Claire Askew of One Night Stanzas.

The space you work in is important. 

It doesn’t matter if it’s your living room, a six-foot-square cubicle, or a corner office-suite; the space you work in makes a massive difference to the work you’re doing.  It can affect the creativity and quality of your work, and it can even affect the time it takes you to do it. We’ve all had days where we can’t string two thoughts together coherently, and can’t figure out why.

Well, it’s highly possible that the workspace you’ve carved out for yourself is a contributing factor.  Check out this list and see if you can’t turn your place of work into a more productive environment…

1: Tidy up.

Do You Make These 7 Body Language Mistakes?

Do You Make These 7 Body Language Mistakes? When you talk you aren’t just communicating with your words.

In fact, you are communicating with your whole body.

According to research done by Albert Mehrabian, currently Professor Emeritus of psychology at UCLA, words are only 7 percent of your communication.

The rest is your voice tonality (38 percent) and your body language at 55 percent.

These numbers may vary depending upon the topic, situation and how something is communicated (for instance, talking over the phone is obviously different from talking face to face) but body language is still a very important part of communication.

Three good reasons to improve your body language:

  • Improve your communication skills. If you improve your body language you can get your thoughts across in a more effective way. You can create a connection to another person more easily. When using more powerful and appropriately balanced body language your communication skills become better and more focused.

How to Flip Things Around: Act as You Would Like to Feel

How to Flip Things Around: Act as You Would Like to Feel
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“Between stimulus and response is the freedom to choose.”
Viktor Frankl

If something happens in your everyday life that could trigger negative emotions and behaviour on your part, what do you do? If you feel lazy or uninspired or angry and hateful, what do you do?

One way to handle such situations is to act as you would like to feel.

Let’s say that someone you know is having success. Maybe s/he’s gotten a promotion at work or finally paid off his/her debt. Perhaps that person is doing better than you in school.

Maybe you get angry or envious. Perhaps you start trash talking the other person. That’s not uncommon. It’s also a pretty reactive behaviour. And deep down you probably don’t want to take that negative route. Well, you don’t have to.

Make a conscious choice