How to Motivate Yourself: 4 Timeless Thoughts

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“Don’t wait until everything is just right. It will never be perfect. There will always be challenges, obstacles and less than perfect conditions. So what. Get started now. With each step you take, you will grow stronger and stronger, more and more skilled, more and more self-confident and more and more successful.”
Mark Victor Hansen

“Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things that you didn’t do than by the ones you did do. So throw off the bowlines. Sail away from the safe harbor. Catch the trade winds in your sails. Explore. Dream. Discover.”

Mark Twain

Motivation can be a huge help for you to achieve what you want in life. But how can you find all that motivation you need?

Here are four timeless thoughts on motivation. I hope you find something useful.

1. Make a conscious choice.

“Be miserable. Or motivate yourself. Whatever has to be done, it’s always your choice.”
Wayne Dyer

“I was thinking one day and I realized that if I just had somebody behind me all the way to motivate me I could make a big difference. Nobody came along like that so I just became that person for myself.”
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Help and motivation from others is always good. But in the end you to be able to rely on yourself. And there is really no escaping it, because as Dyer says, it’s always your choice what to do.

So you have to consciously choose to motivate yourself. You can do that by:

  • Doing what you really, really like to do. When you really like doing something then the motivation do it comes automatically (most of the time). And when you really want something then it simply becomes easier to push through any inner resistance you feel. You are so motivated to achieve whatever it is you want that the risks you may encounter may be scary but smaller than your desire.
  • Make a list. Write down all the benefits you will get from achieving something, like for example getting into better shape or making more money. Save it and pull that list out of the drawer whenever your motivation is lacking and review it. Or put it somewhere where you will see it every day. This is a powerful way to reconnect with your motivation and reasons for taking action.
  • Find what works for you. There are many ways to motivate yourself. You can for example find a list of 25 ways here. Try different ways and find one or a few that work well for you. And then apply them consistently in your own life.

The most important thing is to take responsibility for your own motivation and feelings and not wait around for someone else to do it. When you do that you will most often find a way to get yourself to start moving towards what you want.

2. Walk your talk.

“Walking your talk is a great way to motivate yourself. No one likes to live a lie. Be honest with yourself, and you will find the motivation to do what you advise others to do.”

Vince Poscente

This is great tip. Whenever you don’t follow your own talk or just your inner rules of how you want to behave your tend to feel bad. Your esteem of yourself sinks and your motivation to get going does too.

So you have to be honest with yourself when you feel like you are out of alignment. You have to get up and get started again. When your talk and inner standards you have set for yourself align with what you do then you your self esteem goes up. You feel great because you are living like you want to deep down. And you are getting all these important things done and can enjoy the results. And then you want more of that good stuff, you sometimes feel so motivated that you can’t wait to get going.

This is not always easy. In the short run it’s often easier and less uncomfortable and scary to lie to yourself a bit and hold yourself back. But the rewards for walking your talk are big. Both on the outside and the inside.

3. Set goals that really inspires you.

“Goals are not only absolutely necessary to motivate us. They are essential to really keep us alive.”
Robert H. Schuller

Without inspiring goals you tend wander around aimlessly in a confused funk.

I think the most important thing about setting goals is to find goals that really inspire and motivate you.

What are your goals? As much as possible, you have to set the goals for yourself. Should and ought to-goals aren’t good enough. Or goals that other people have set for you.

Think about your goals. Think about who has set them. Then think about what you really want in life. Then set your own goals. Write them down.

I also don’t think one should be afraid of setting big goals. Set a big goal that inspires you even if it may seem a tad unrealistic at the moment. If you have too easily achievable goals then you may find that they don’t give you that motivational spark and drive. When you start to think a bit bigger then you get motivated and your mind starts looking for the how that will help you achieve that goal. Thinking too small and can leave you with a “meh…” feeling or make you feel like you can do it later.

And a benefit of this is – even if you don’t quite achieve your big, big goal or it takes a while longer than you may have hoped for – can be found in a quote from Les Brown:

“Shoot for the moon and if you miss you will still be among the stars.”

4. Don’t get too hung up on being motivated to get started.

“The whole idea of motivation is a trap. Forget motivation. Just do it. Exercise, lose weight, test your blood sugar, or whatever. Do it without motivation. And then, guess what? After you start doing the thing, that’s when the motivation comes and makes it easy for you to keep on doing it.”

John C. Maxwell

Here’s another view on motivation. Maybe you don’t need it to get started? Maybe you can create it along the way?

Many times I have found it better to just do it and start working instead of trying to motivate myself to get going. At first what you do may suck quite a bit and it’s hard going. But after a while inspiration and motivation seems to catch up with you. Things start to flow easier and your work is of a higher quality.

And after you have kept going for a while you become more and more motivated. Because you start to feel like you can actually do this and you can keep going to achieve your goal. And now you are also walking your talk which boosts your motivation.

On some days you may not seem to be able motivate yourself into action. Even if you review your goals or reasons to achieve something.

That’s ok. You can still make a conscious choice based on what you know deep down is right and just start moving your hands and feet anyway. No matter how you feel inside, no matter what negative thoughts may be circling around in your head.

Try both to get yourself motivated before you begin and to just do it and find the motivation along the way. Try both ways and see what works best for you.

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1 Business Communication July 21, 2009 at 12:11 am

According to the title, the last point was actually a thought one can apply to the issue of motivation. We have all that we need within- its like a seed for a oak tree comes with everything it needs. Yet it is up to us to put ourselves in the way of things that will nurture our desire to do what we need to do to get where we want to be with our goals. If you are a singer, turn on some music. If you are an investor, turn on ridiculous money show that you could do better. Make your list of “I will” “I can” and then, be reasonable with yourself. Maybe all you can commit to is ONE THING- well, that one thing can be a major accomplishment in the right direction!

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2 Greg at Live Fit July 21, 2009 at 12:39 am

the key to finding motivation is to make the activity a priority. I used to say that I was terrible with names. Couldn’t remember them. Then it was pointed out to me that recalling names just wasn’t a priority. Now I’m much better at this simple task. So it goes with most things.

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3 Gabriel Hummel July 21, 2009 at 1:22 am

Great post Henrik

I find that everyone loves a “ra ra” session of motivation or whatnot, but very few people seem to follow through with the things they want in life.

If you have dreams and goals in life, its your duty to yourself, and those around you, to make them a reality (even if it means shifting some things around in your life to make room)

The human potential is limitless, and as long as you step up to make a change, you can accomplish anything you want in life

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4 Ellen Delap July 21, 2009 at 2:45 am

I love the concept of motivation as opposed to self regulation and self discipline. Tapping into the GOALS aspect, we know that we are truly motivated to be accomplished. Love this post!

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5 Sridhar July 21, 2009 at 7:22 am

Henrik

Great post, as usual. I especially like the part about having goals. Due to a billion dollar industry and in-the-face advertising, saying “Goals” to people immediately blanks their mind. It also has connotes having a life goal or “where do you want to be 10 years from now?”. How do I know?

The secret is to have smaller goals that are more realistic and achievable. the main thing about goals is to track them frequently. Otherwise, they will become something like new Year resolutions, forgotten on 2 January.

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6 Luinae July 21, 2009 at 8:53 am

Goal setting is my favourite one on that list because I love it! I find it very exciting to have a list of blog articles I need to write, things to do, things for the future. That ’s my way to motivate myself.
You have to find what makes you really excited about life, take note, and keep doing it!

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7 Kaizan July 21, 2009 at 10:57 am

This is a great post.

I love point 2. It’s so true. The days, that I feel I’m not walking my talk, are the days that I feel less motivated.

I also agree with point 4. In the classic book Think and Grow Rich by Napoleon Hill, a lot of the people he mentions did not have a “burning desire” straight away. It was only after focussing and working on the goal, that their desire was developed.

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8 IvánPérez July 21, 2009 at 3:15 pm

This is one of the post that makes me want to comment, great job. I will stumble it for future re-readings.

Cheers,
Iván.

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9 Lisa July 21, 2009 at 3:58 pm

Great post. I especially find that when I am goal focused I can stay motivated. The question I ask – Is what I’m doing or the choice I am making getting me closer to my goals or farther away from them?
This puts me on the right path.

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10 Amit Sodha July 21, 2009 at 5:34 pm

That quote by Mark Twain – I’ve never heard it before but I wrote a post recently called the ‘What-TIS’ principle….very similar!

Great post, thanks!

Amit

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11 Srinivas Rao July 21, 2009 at 6:25 pm

All great points Heinrik. I know that many people are challenged with motivation or seem to be waiting for something to happen before they take action. Often we get too caught up in thought. I think you made a great point about doing what you are passionate and interested in. In my experience that makes a huge difference.

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12 Mark Foo | TheBigDreamer.com July 21, 2009 at 7:38 pm

I can totally relate to your last point – creating motivation along the way. I used to think that motivation needs to come before you actually start doing something because motivation is the key to ignite your engine. But I have since realised this to be untrue. Nowadays, I very often find myself more and more motivated after I’ve kicked start an action. It just flows after I get off my butt and just do it.

Thank you so much for sharing this great article.

Cheers~

Mark

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13 Andy Stokes July 21, 2009 at 9:54 pm

I love this post, especially because of its serendipity. I’m reading “Failing Forward” by John C. Maxwell right now, and not even 24 hours ago did I read the part with his exact quote in topic 4. I don’t think this is by chance at all, as I remember that being the one quote I stopped on, re-read over and over, read out loud to my girlfriend (who was driving) and thought about until I went to sleep last night. This morning, I even wrote it on the palm of my hand for motivation! Makes so, so much sense.

Thanks for the great post and blog, Henrik – as usual!

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14 Anonymous July 22, 2009 at 9:53 am

Henrik,

This post was awesome! Especially, I often catch myself trying to figure out a way to find the motivation to get started on a task. Your advice, especially the last point really Works!. I have often noticed that myself, and it is perhaps best for some folks to just get started and find motivation along the way. Keep posting!

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15 J.D. Meier July 22, 2009 at 10:12 am

Beautiful stuff.

The most precise guidance I’ve heard for finding your motivation is change your why or change your how. Connecting to your personal values is a surefire way to get your get up and go.

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16 Vincent July 22, 2009 at 4:13 pm

Hi Henrik,

Setting goals that we do not want to achieve is definitely not a smart thing to do. The goal may seems grand but if we do not want it from deep down in ourselves, most probably we will not have any motivation to achieve it.

Cheers,
Vincent

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17 John July 23, 2009 at 7:53 pm

Motivation is a very powerful tool that is necessary when we are trying to achieve our goals. Action is the key. Without action, we cannot write a list, we cannot set goals, we cannot be our own motivation.

Movitation is the source of our actions. And to be motivated, we must be inspired in the same manner this post has inspired the other commenters.

Great post, Henrik.

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18 jonathan figaro July 24, 2009 at 4:36 am

All i can is that goal completion is the key to staying motivated. By completing your goals every day, that pertains to your dream in any aspect you will succeed. Just make sure that every day you do something to move you towards your goal. If Not? Well then you will begin to stale mentally, like out dated bread left on top of your kitchen counter. Then the excuses for failure will come in and a overall dismissal of your goals is the end result.

So, the tip is to stay consistent. Like Mark Victor Hansen said
“It will never be perfect”

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19 Ron July 24, 2009 at 2:36 pm

Inspiring read. I particularly enjoyed your outlook about motivation as a result of doing rather than thinking or psyching up yourself.

Stay at it.

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20 Hot Alpha Female July 24, 2009 at 4:27 pm

I really LOVE that first quote by Mark Victor Hansen. That should be like a bulletin message sent out to every perfectionist on the planet.

I really resonated with what you said about speaking your truth and living it.

There is something that feels fundamentally wrong when you talk a big game and know that you are not living it. I think it actually affects your self esteem even more so talking about it, then not saying anything at all. Because then you have to add “hypocrite” to the list of things you don’t like about yourself.

I see the same thing happen with men when they attempt to attract and approach women. They try their best to put on this mask of having it all together, being really smooth or having a great life and really having nothing to back it up with.

The same applies for women. How can you ever truly attract a great man with everything going for him when you have nothing going on for yourself?

I think at the end of the day becoming the master of your own self esteem is the key to happiness, the key to motivation and the key to success.

Love this post! Keep em coming!

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21 Everything Counts July 26, 2009 at 9:45 am

Great post and very beautiful writing. I really liked the words. Thanks again for such a nice post.

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22 zencontrol.net July 27, 2009 at 5:54 am

Good one.. I think biggest hurdle for most of people, in any activity, is just taking the first step… one needs more motivation to take the first step, than to sustain the journey….

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23 Nicole July 31, 2009 at 6:21 pm

Regarding walking the talk. Agreed!

Your definition or yourself is based on a your own standards, not external ones. I say poo society.

You are what you say you are.

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24 Rohit Prakash August 3, 2009 at 1:03 pm

Nice article and practical too.

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25 Josten August 10, 2009 at 2:28 am

goodness this post was amazing. The quotes blew me away.

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26 Latoya September 11, 2009 at 9:46 pm

This was a great article

I always like planning things out on paper to help stay focused and motivated on accomplishing my goals.

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