≡ Menu

3 Things You Need to Stop Doing to Get Started

3 Things You Need to Stop Doing to Get Started with What You Truly Want to Do

“It is never too late to be what you might have been.”
George Eliot

Getting started with doing what you deep down want to do in life can be hard.

No matter if what you want is to start exercising, create your own business on the side, write a book, improve your relationship with yourself, see other parts of the world or something entirely else.

But often we make getting started a lot harder than it needs to be by standing in our own way.

So in today’s article I’d like to share 3 things you need to stop doing to step out of your own way and make it so much easier to actually get started instead of just keep dreaming about it.

1. Stop making it a huge and vague thing in your mind.

The more you think about whatever you want to get started with the bigger it tends to become in your head. And as you keep thinking about the various ways this could go it tends to become scarier and scarier.

So do this instead:

  • Get knowledge from the others who have been where you want to go. To defuse vague fears about what could happen if you got started and about the unclear unknown, get information from people who have already gone where you want to go.
    It is easier than ever to find them today. Look them up online and read what they have written and said or send them an email. Or go ask someone you know in real life that has done what you want to do.
  • Ask yourself: Honestly, what is realistically the worst that could happen? Take a couple of deep breaths to calm down your mind a bit. Then ask yourself this question.
    You’ll realize that in most cases the worst thing that could realistically happen is not that bad. It may sting for a bit. But it is something you can handle. And it is a situation you can find something to do about if this worst case scenario were to happen. The clarity you get from this question can – in my experience – reduce fears quite a bit.

2. Stop trying to control everything.

Being prepared and knowing some things certainly helps.

But it can become a trap when you try to control it all or think things through 50 times to be on the safe side and to not risk making mistakes, fail or look like a fool.

What to do instead:

  • Realize: you will stumble and that is OK. It happens to anyone who steps outside of his or her comfort zone. It has happened to everyone you may admire and who have lived a life that is inspiring.
    It is simply a part of a life well lived. And if you reflect on what you can learn from a mistake then that will be invaluable to help you grow and improve.
  • Learn to set time-limits for small decisions at first. If you have trouble with overthinking then set a time-limit for when you have to make a decision. This might seem a bit scary though.
    So start small and set a 30-60 second time-limit when trying to decide if you are going to work out or reply to an email. Do that for a while and then move on to slightly bigger decisions. And then even bigger ones after that.

3. Stop thinking that you have to get started in a big and spectacular way.

If you have a big goal or dream or even a medium sized one then it is easy to think that you have to take an action of the same size to get started or to get where you want to go.

That is most often not true though.

What to do instead:

  • Go small. Just ask yourself: what is one small step I can take today to get the ball rolling with my goal/dream? Then take just that small action. And tomorrow or later on today you can do the same thing again. If that question still lands you in procrastination then ask yourself: What is one tiny step I can take to get the ball rolling?
  • Single-task each little step. Focus on just the one step you are taking. Nothing else. Otherwise it is easy to get lost in thought, to go off track or to feel uncomfortable or fearful. So keep your attention on just this one action and step forward.
    And after that, the next one. Let these actions build day after day into something bigger. And before you know it you’ll have gone quite a distance on your journey.
Free Exclusive Happiness Tips

When you join the 80,000 people that are subscribed to the Positivity Newsletter you will not only get practical tips on happiness, self-esteem, productivity and more in your inbox each week.

You’ll also get these three guides for free:

-> 21 Things I Wish They Had Taught Me in School.
-> 7 Steps to Stop Being So Lazy.
-> 10 Things You Can Do When Life Sucks.
100% privacy and no spam. You can unsubscribe anytime.

Comments on this entry are closed.

  • Sam

    My life is at a standstill and I am so negative, with many aspects over many years. Putting a brave face on has become too easy, as with any excuse to do what is required.
    That old saying ” you can lead a camel to water” many times I have been shown, but have not taken the second step.
    The recent death of my parents, of old age. And distancing myself from my family and friends. Has left me wanting something, but I don’t know what. Spoiling the grandchildren is my only relief,…
    Overweight….grabbed a gym membership last year but never went, but continue to pay monthly.
    Jobs around the house are building up, but I say I haven’t the time, because of work or I’m tired ….but be damned if I will pay someone else, to do them.
    My 30+ yr marriage is crumbling, as is my children’s relationship…
    Depression, suicidal…hell no !
    A mid life crisis perhaps, or am I again looking for another excuse. I believe it’s a lack of motivation?

    I so, so, see how negative I have allowed myself to become in the last 15yrs, now when l read your messages.

    • Stay strong! One step at a time!

    • lee

      Here’s a tip I heard recently to help get you started. Leave home & start walking, when you have walked for just 10 minutes, turn around & walk home again. 20 mins exercise done!

  • Thanks bro.

  • Gemma

    Excellent advice as always! Thank you for your insightful blog :)

  • Hopeson

    This is really helpful. Am greatful. Again and again.

  • yes. you don’t see stuff in the present because reflections of light

  • Suganya

    This is really helpful for me to become strong,i can make my decision by own as ur advice not only that as Iam poor in English nowadays I am slowly started to o gain knowledge by reading all ur article.Thank you so much

  • Hi,

    I read the blog and the blog is very good and best info.

  • All your articles have helped me in my life and small business. Thanks Jim

  • Failure is part of our life and we need to experience failure so that we can succeed. It doesn’t matter if you fall down. Just get up and move on.

  • Great piece of advice. Excellent article!

  • This is really a great article and great read for me. Its my first visit to your blog and i have found it so useful and informative specially this article.