5 Romantic Ideas for Valentine’s Day (and Beyond)

I write a lot about self-love and the best-seller among the courses I have created is all about that and self-esteem.

But I rarely write about romantic love (although many of the relationship tips on the site work for any kind of relationship). So today I have decided to share something that could help you if you are out of ideas for what to do for Valentine’s Day next week.

Here are 5 ideas you can use as inspiration for Valentine’s Day (and any other day of the year too).

1. Create a hidden message.

This one I picked up from the Simpsons. Underline or circle letters in whatever he or she is reading (a book, a magazine etc.). Create a hidden love message for him or her to find, letter by letter.

2. Sweet and surprising notes.

I and my girlfriend leave small and sweet notes in boots, tea-containers, underneath the pillow, in books we are reading and other places around the home. It’s a very simple and small thing but it always makes the both of us smile big when we discover one of those notes.

3. Give an unexpected experience.

Maybe a surprise adventure like a dinner at a restaurant where the two of you haven’t been before.

Or if you do that quite regularly then try a museum, a musical, ice-skating, a picnic, a show of some kind, an amusement park or some other unexpected experience.

4. Give something he or she genuinely likes.

Show love in the way your partner prefers to be loved. If he really likes flowers then get that. If she is not much of a fan of flowers get her a book or video game or something even more practical if that is what she really wants.

Or give an experience that is unexpected. Or give something familiar if your partner prefers that.

You don’t have to go cliché. Know what your partner likes and how he or she thinks instead.

5. Don’t just focus on Valentine’s Day.

Make showing your love a habit. Use the tips above whenever you feel like it. Surprise the special someone in your life in a small or big way on a regular Tuesday or Wednesday.

Loving gestures and words delivered in surprising ways will not only inject more sparks in your relationship and be fun. It will also be win/win in a more important way by creating a loving environment.

In this environment your words and actions help his or her self-esteem to grow and blossom. And since people tend to want to give what they get you will get the same thing back. And so the two of you can build a more and more loving, supportive and self-esteem enhancing environment.

This will make your lives and relationship more stable, less filled with making mountains out of molehills and happier.

And that is more valuable than any Valentine’s Gift could ever be.

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Henrik Edberg is the creator of the Positivity Blog and has written weekly articles here since 2006. He has a bachelor’s degree in journalism from the University of Gothenburg and has been featured on Lifehacker, HuffPost and Paulo Coelho’s blog. Click here to learn more…

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  • I really like the hidden message idea, unfortunately my wife does most of her reading on her ipad. I might try it with my daughter though, she has some books we just picked up from the used bookstore.

    I might try the hidden messages with my wife. That should be a fun way to share some love over the course of the day.

    Thanks for the great ideas!

    • Thanks for the kind comment! Hope your daughter and wife will like the ideas.

  • Awesome write up and perfect timing for me because right now my fiancee and I live in different states because of our jobs. So I’ve been trying to think of a way to do something different instead of the usual flowers, chocolates, jewelry, and surprise visit. I came up with writing a letters to her so that she will get mail from me for 14 days straight.

    • I appreciate that, Daniel. And what a wonderful idea! Thank you for sharing it.

  • Dear Hendrik,

    The 5 th point was the one that touched my heart because, true love is a continuous process and one has to shower his/her love throughout their life..

    I will try to expand your list because I was planning to post an article on my blog on 13th..he he…Masters always come first and you have done that…

    Now I will try to give more value to your lovely article..


  • Toby Crabtree

    Amazing Article with some great points shared! I personally liked your 4th point. Giving something which your partner likes is probably the best way to make him / her know how special both are for each other.

  • I used to make surprise my wife and for that I am big fan of the 4th point. I usually seem ignoring her wishes along the month for exemple and give her what she wants at the best moment.

    • Thank you for sharing how you do it. Hope you will have a good Valentine’s Day!

  • If I had a boyfriend I would definitely send him this post lol! love it!

  • Hi Karen,

    I wish you got a very good day with your boyfriend last valentines day.Anyway,Henrik,thanks for those valuable information.