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3 Things You Need to Stop Doing to Get Started with What You Truly Want to Do

“What is not started today is never finished tomorrow.”
Johann Wolfgang von Goethe

“It is never too late to be what you might have been.”
George Eliot

Getting started with doing what you truly want to do in life can be hard.

No matter if what you want is to start exercising, create your own business on the side, write a book, improve your relationship with yourself, see other parts of the world or something entirely else.

But often we make getting started a lot harder than it needs to be by standing in our own way.

So in today’s article I’d like to share 3 things you need to stop doing to step out of your own way and make it so much easier to actually get started instead of just keep dreaming about it.

1. Stop making it a huge and vague thing in your mind.

The more you think about whatever you want to get started with the bigger it tends to become in your head. And as you keep thinking about the various ways this could go it tends to become scarier and scarier.

So do this instead:

  • Get knowledge from the others who have been where you want to go. To defuse vague fears about what could happen if you got started and about the unclear unknown, get information from people who have already gone where you want to go.
    It is easier than ever to find them today. Look them up online and read what they have written and said or send them an email. Or go ask someone you know in real life that has done what you want to do.
  • Ask yourself: Honestly, what is realistically the worst that could happen? Take a couple of deep breaths to calm down your mind a bit. Then ask yourself this question.
    You’ll realize that in most cases the worst thing that could realistically happen is not that bad. It may sting for a bit. But it is something you can handle. And it is a situation you can find something to do about if this worst case scenario were to happen. The clarity you get from this question can – in my experience – reduce fears quite a bit.

2. Stop trying to control everything.

Being prepared and knowing some things certainly helps.

But it can become a trap when you try to control it all or think things through 50 times to be on the safe side and to not risk making mistakes, fail or look like a fool.

What to do instead:

  • Realize: you will stumble and that is OK. It happens to anyone who steps outside of his or her comfort zone. It has happened to everyone you may admire and who have lived a life that is inspiring.
    It is simply a part of a life well lived. And if you reflect on what you can learn from a mistake then that will be invaluable to help you grow and improve.
  • Learn to set time-limits for small decisions at first. If you have trouble with overthinking then set a time-limit for when you have to make a decision. This might seem a bit scary though.
    So start small and set a 30-60 second time-limit when trying to decide if you are going to work out or reply to an email. Do that for a while and then move on to slightly bigger decisions. And then even bigger ones after that.

3. Stop thinking that you have to get started in a big and spectacular way.

If you have a big goal or dream or even a medium sized one then it is easy to think that you have to take an action of the same size to get started or to get where you want to go.

That is most often not true though.

What to do instead:

  • Go small. Just ask yourself: what is one small step I can take today to get the ball rolling with my goal/dream? Then take just that small action. And tomorrow or later on today you can do the same thing again. If that question still lands you in procrastination then ask yourself: What is one tiny step I can take to get the ball rolling?
  • Single-task each little step. Focus on just the one step you are taking. Nothing else. Otherwise it is easy to get lost in thought, to go off track or to feel uncomfortable or fearful. So keep your attention on just this one action and step forward.
    And after that, the next one. Let these actions build day after day into something bigger. And before you know it you’ll have gone quite a distance on your journey.

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  • Marcin April 10, 2016, 2:12 pm

    … and keep moving forward 🙂

  • Ashley April 10, 2016, 10:40 pm

    I really agree with everything that you said and it is great to read because these are some of the steps I have been taking. I am starting a business and it has been scary. I was afraid to make mistakes and I was unsure about how to move forward but not I just focus on what is right in front of me. I try to get one thing completely done before moving on to another no matter how big or small the task may be. This just further motivates me and shows me that I am on the right track!
    Thank you

    • saniya April 11, 2016, 7:36 pm

      it is good and get forwad to on track own your bussiness and continue the hard work on your bussiness

  • Sunny April 11, 2016, 1:24 am

    I heard someone say on a commercial years ago: “Making mistakes should be as natural as breathing. Agreed…we will stumble, as you say Henrik, but that is just a speed bump on the way to the finish line. 🙂 Thanks for reminding us!

  • Thea Dunlap April 11, 2016, 4:02 am

    Great article. It is very help for to start on what you want to do or what are you going to do. Keep it up 🙂

  • Josephine mutakela April 12, 2016, 11:07 pm

    This has just answered my queries the hesitations I had on starting up my own business. Thank you for your help through these encouraging words.

  • Tyson Popplestone April 14, 2016, 3:50 am

    Hi there,

    I love your advice on ‘what to do instead’. I’ve found ‘doing small things’ so super helpful in my own journey. It’s so easy getting caught up just going for the big stuff every now and then than it is to do the small things consistently.

    Thanks so much for your post

  • Kamal Gill April 22, 2016, 10:54 am

    Love this article. Sums up what I’ve learnt in the past few months reading personal development books. Fear is the number one dream killer…

  • Keith April 22, 2016, 12:14 pm

    Thanks Henrik,
    lots of great reminders. Will have to stop doing lots of things 😉

  • Joe Stevenson May 2, 2016, 10:13 pm

    This is great information, and it’s so good to just run through it. I’ve just started promoting my new blog and seeing these tips written should help me move forward at a sensible pace.

    This has been a really inspirational website to come back to, with so many useful articles to look at now.

  • Emily June 4, 2016, 1:39 pm

    Great post and very inspiring. Over thinking does more harm than not thinking, don’t think too much about the results, if that’s what you want to do, DO IT.

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