I often write about how a good start to your day often leads to having a good day in general.
A social, an energetic or a productive start sets the context for your day.
But on some days you may not get a good start for some reason.
Maybe you slept badly. Or the maybe the winter snow and cold is dragging your energy down.
Or you might have lost that positive momentum during a hard first part of the day and after lunch you feel tired, low or lost in a somewhat sad or uninspired funk.
What to do then? Is that day lost and should you just aim for a better day tomorrow?
Well, today is not over yet. Maybe you can still make something good out it.
Here’s how I do that by breaking the negative mood and getting a new start. When you need a reboot to your day and mood choose one of these tips and see how it works for you.
Appreciate what you have.
The simplest of my most commonly used pick-me-ups.
I take about 2 minutes and sit or stand in silence. I tell myself: OK, I might not feel so good right now, but what can I be grateful for and appreciate in my life?
I usually come up with one simple thing. My tasty food. My health. That I have a roof.
That one thing opens up my mind. It redirects my thoughts from the negativity.
Then I build upon that one thing. I make mental jumps from the roof, to the warmth in our home, to the fluffy cat sitting beside me on the sofa, to that I can work from home as the rain pours outside.
I make those small mental leaps by just moving my attention around in the room I am in. Like skipping from stone to stone over a stream. And I take the time to slowly appreciate all those things.
This changes my mood to a happier, more warm and open one.
Act as you would like to feel.
Emotions work backwards too. So if I want to become more positive or enthusiastic then I act in the manner of a person who is positive or enthusiastic.
I may not feel like it. But I do it as best as I can anyway. I think of the task I have in front of me as something exciting and fun. I may answer some emails or talk to someone in a positive and enthusiastic manner.
If I feel unmotivated or nervous before some kind of meeting I may assume rapport (I think to myself that I am meeting one of my best friends just before the meeting and that puts me in the right mood and headspace).
If I feel negative and indecisive or just sort of stuck in in-action then I work out.
30-40 minutes with my free weights melts away tension and stress from my body.
It recharges me and my focus becomes much sharper and it becomes easier once again to make decisions and to take action to move forward.
The change in mood and headspace after a workout can be pretty big in my experience and the nice thing is that it works pretty much automatically. You only have to show up and start working in out and things change.
Think for a minute and give someone a genuine compliment.
Here’s a fun one that I use quite often and that will not only lift my own mood.
Spend one minute coming up with something you really and genuinely appreciate about someone in your life that is in the same room as you at some point during the day. Then tell him or her the genuine compliment you have come up with.
She or he will be happy. You’ll feel good about yourself and get positive feelings too from the now smiling, happy and complimented person. And so the mood for the both of you is changed for the better.
P.S: Thank you to everyone who participated in the survey I posted last week. Your answers will be a huge help.