January is a month of enthusiasm.
The gyms are full. New diets are being tried out. Homes are being decluttered and simplified.
Then comes February. The explosive enthusiasm has faded. Many return to their old habits or get frustrated because it isn’t as easy to stay motivated and to keep going as it was at the start of the year.
So what can you do?
I’d like to share one of the most effective ways that I have found for jolting and refueling my own motivation.
Step 1: The negative.
Sit down in a quiet place. Close your eyes for just a few minutes. To get a jolt to get going again ask yourself:
- How will my life look in 5 years if I continue to stay on the same path as now?
- How will life likely become worse for me and maybe even for the people around me?
It may be uncomfortable but try to see the negative consequences as vividly as you can in your mind to kickstart your motivation to get going again for that positive change.
Step 2: The positive.
Then look at the other side of things. Close your eyes for a few minutes and ask yourself:
- How will my life look in 1 year if I stick with it and keep going?
- How will it look in 5 years?
- How will life improve not only for me but for the people around me that I love if I stick with it?
See all of that come alive in your mind.
Step 3: Your most personal motivation.
With these two sets of questions try to not just to see the future as detailed and as vividly as you can.
More importantly, also try to find your very personal reason or reasons for making this change.
For example, getting into better shape could help you to become more optimistic and more energetic. That is great and doing the two steps above usually fills me with a lot of new and fresh motivation.
But to really find the heart of your motivation close your eyes and keep looking for a few more minutes for the more personal answer if you haven’t already found it.
The answer could be that you want to make this change in your health because if you don’t then you might not have the energy to have fun and play as much as you want with your daughter while she is young. And as she grows up you may be too tired from work to give her quality time each day.
If you want to make a change in your money habits then it could be because you always dreamed of seeing Machu Picchu or visiting the Maldives with the person you love most in the world.
If you want to become more effective at work it could be because you would like to that promotion and be able to earn more to provide more financial security for your children and family.
So go personal to come alive and to refocus on and refuel with your true motivation.
Then get a small piece of paper. Write down the most personal and emotionally engaging answer you found. Put that small piece of paper where you cannot avoid seeing it every day.
Good places could be your work space, your bedside table or your fridge.
This will make it easier to keep your eyes on what is most important and to not get lost in everyday life. And you you can revisit this exercise whenever you need a bigger motivational recharge.
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