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The Very Simple Guide to Chilling Out

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“If you ask what is the single most important key to longevity, I would have to say it is avoiding worry, stress and tension. And if you didn’t ask me, I’d still have to say it.”

George F. Burns

One good life skill is to be able to chill out. To be calm in negative situations and not overreact about all kinds of things. Or invent big, big problems in your mind – or create them in your world as you drag other people in through arguments – by making mountains out of molehills.

By being able to chill out when needed to you will:

  • Have a lot less stress, worry and pointless conflicts with other people.
  • Waste less of your time on things that aren’t really that useful.
  • Attract what you are. To be able to draw people who are more relaxed and positive about life into your life then you have to be that person yourself. People like to hang out with people who are like them (because it’s comfortable, because it brings more fun and success, because people have 24 hours in a day and so choices need to be made). Being someone that can be cool and relaxed about things is a positive and attractive social quality for any kind of relationship.

So how do you do it?

Well, here are four good tips:

1. Ask yourself if this even really matters.

By asking yourself the wrong questions you can make any little thing into a huge problem. By asking yourself better questions you can see things from a more helpful perspective.

  • Who cares? Very simple. Asking yourself this makes you realize that no, this isn’t a big deal to fuss or worry about.
  • Will this matter 5 years from now? If you ask yourself this question you will discover that if you put something into a more healthy perspective then few things matter that much.

2. Get a life.

If you find yourself sitting around too much and not having enough to do then it’s very easy to get stuck in thought loops and go into a downward spiral. Simply by filling your life with more fun activities and people you can become a lot more relaxed and less prone to overreacting about the little things.

So spend less time analyzing life and more time living and exploring it in whatever way you’d like. By doing so you are also often confronted with having to expand your comfort zones and perhaps face a fear. This leads to better self confidence and less fretting about if you can handle things that may come up.

3. What would someone else do?

This is a good way to find a new and more useful perspective. You simply ask yourself what someone else would do in your situation.

Maybe you ask yourself:

  • What would Winnie the Pooh  do?
  • What would James Bond do?
  • What would mom or dad do?

The point is to play around and find a new perspective and drag yourself out of your current negative, stressed and confused headspace and see things in another light. Just doing that can often help you to calm down, realize that this isn’t a huge deal and help you to find a solution that you can apply.

4. Remember to keep things extremely simple.

At the very top of the whiteboard on my wall I have written down: “Keep things extremely simple”. This is a very useful thing to remind yourself of throughout any day. Whenever I feel I am making a thing bigger or more complicated than it is or I simply become confused or negative in some way I can look at the wall (or remember that sentence if I’m not at home) to help guide my thoughts back into a constructive and calm place.

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  • Lindsey Petersen February 21, 2010, 10:07 pm

    YES! Avoid stress. That does not mean not to take chances or to do things of importance, it means not to take yourself too seriously. One can live an eventful life relatively stress free. A happy life!
    Lindsey Petersen
    http://5kidswdisabilities.wordpress.com

  • Shiela February 23, 2010, 7:16 pm

    We get so caught up at times in everything that is happening around us. Knowing what is happening around us is not nearly as important as what we think. In other words, what’s happening IN us is much more important than what’s happening around us.
    To pause is a powerful state, it allows us to calmly look at what is.

  • Bradford Smith March 1, 2010, 11:47 am

    I agree with everything here. Especially “keep things simple”, that would have to be one of the harder aspects. Keeping things uncluttered and clear around the home is a HUGE difference in staying chilled out as well. Nothing better to start your day with than waking up and the place is clean. Helps to start the day in the right, stress free frame of mind.

  • Christopher March 18, 2010, 5:20 pm

    Thank you so much for this very wonderful post. We get so trapped up at times in the whole lot that is happening around us. Knowing what is occurring around us is not almost as vital as what we believe.
    Christopher Duncan
    http://www.christopherduncan.biz