“When we have begun to take charge of our lives, to own ourselves, there is no longer any need to ask permission of someone.”
“Man must cease attributing his problems to his environment, and learn again to exercise his will – his personal responsibility.”
“Absorb what is useful, Discard what is not, Add what is uniquely your own”
Who will save you and finally solve your problems?
Nope. The one that will save you is the guy/girl in the mirror.
You have to become your own guru.
What does that mean?
Well, to me it means that you have to consciously decide to become the highest authority in your own life. That you have to take full responsibility for your own life instead of trying to put it on Tony Robbins and blame him when things don’t work out quite the way you wanted them to.
It means that you don’t have to hang on to one guru like s/he is a life preserver but that you can be your own guru that mixes and matches what works for you. That you practically experiment, keep what works for you and discard the rest.
Remember to still take leaps of faith
Here is a tricky part. To be your own guru doesn’t mean that you dismiss all the useful and great advice from other people or books and blogs. I think it is easy to fall into this trap. You let your ego run wild and feel like you are the smartest person around.
This leads to you not being as open as before. And so you may dismiss advice and opportunities that could help you to grow to the next level.
So as you are your own guru you also have to be open to the fact that you don’t know everything. And it is helpful to understand that on one really does. Because then you understand that a guru is in the end just a person. And so you can stop putting him way up there at unreachable heights and yourself way down here. This insight loosens up and lessens the inner boundaries that you have set for your own potential.
Now, to grow we must often take leaps of faith.
Sure, I thought that much of this personal development stuff was empty motivational nonsense or just scams a few years ago. I thought that Eckhart Tolle’s stuff – like the Power of Now and A New Earth – was a bit vague, new agey and weird. Still, I took leaps of faith and learning about this stuff and applying it has really help me out in life.
So don’t confuse being your own guru with knowing everything and dismissing anything you might feel resistance towards. It is actually the things we resist or fear on some level that will often help us to grow the most if we move towards them.
Find and decide what you and are your life is all about
In the end now one knows or understands exactly what you dream about and all the positive and negative experiences you have been through. No one can know you better than you know yourself.
No one can take responsibility for what will happen in the rest of your life but you. This is scarier than trying to push that responsibility on to someone else. But it also can also set you free.
Free to experiment with your own and other people’s thoughts and find what works best for you.
Free to find who you really are deep inside.
Free as you realize that yes, no one is coming to save you, but on the other hand you can create your own life and path through it.
People can help and support you. But in the end you have to take responsibility, become your own guru and decide what you and the rest of your life will be about.