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Nelson Mandela’s Top 9 Fundamentals for Changing Your World

Nelson Mandela’s Top 9 Fundamentals for Changing Your World
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“In my country we go to prison first and then become President.”

“There is nothing like returning to a place that remains unchanged to find the ways in which you yourself have altered.”

“It always seems impossible until its done.”

Nobel Peace Prize winner Nelson Mandela needs no long introduction. He was a prominent activist in the struggle against the oppression in South Africa and spent 27 years in prison because of that. Finally, in 1990 he was released and went on to become a president that helped to change and unite South Africa.

Here are nine of my favourite fundamentals from Mandela for bringing about change in yourself and in your world.

1. Don’t shrink yourself or your ambitions.

“There is no passion to be found playing small – in settling for a life that is less than the one you are capable of living.”

It’s tempting to play small. To just settle and take it easy. It would definitely be easier, at least in the short run. Because going after what you really want demands so much time, effort and possible pain along the way. But it’s also there where you grow and can live fully.

While playing small might be easier it also comes with nagging thoughts at the back of your head that say “Is this all there is? Could I have done more?”. Taking the tough road is of course harder in many ways. But it is also there you find the truly awesome triumphs and wonderful times that you may never have experienced otherwise.

2. Move towards your fear.

“I learned that courage was not the absence of fear, but the triumph over it. The brave man is not he who does not feel afraid, but he who conquers that fear.”

What you really want in life is also often what you fear the most to go after. Moving towards fear is often a pretty good – but terrifying – piece of advice. So how can you overcome the fear that holds you back? Here are three tips:

  • Fear is often based on unhelpful interpretation. As humans we like to look for patterns. The problem is just that we often find negative and not so helpful patterns in our lives based on just one or two experiences. Or by misjudging situations. Or through some silly miscommunication. When you get too identified with your thoughts you’ll believe anything they tell you. A more helpful practise may be to not take your thoughts too seriously. A lot of the time they and your memory are pretty inaccurate.

  • Be curious. When you are stuck in fear you are closed up. You tend to create division in your world and mind. You create barriers between you and other things/people. Curiosity on the other hand is filled with anticipation and enthusiasm. It opens you up. And when you are open and enthusiastic then you have more fun things to think about than focusing on your fear. Curiousness also opens you up to gain understanding of something. And with understanding vague, fog-like fears disappear.

  • Don’t cling to your illusion of safety. Why do people sit on their hands? Is it just because they become paralyzed with fear? I’d say no. One big reason why people don’t face their fears is because they think they are safe where they are right now. But the truth is that safety is mostly a superstition. It is created in your mind to make you feel safe. But there is no safety out there really. It is all uncertain and unknown. When you stop clinging to your safety life becomes a whole lot more exciting and interesting. You are no longer as confined by an illusion and realize that you set your limits for what you can do and to a large extent create your own freedom in the world.

3. Be patient and persist.

“After climbing a great hill, one only finds that there are many more hills to climb.”

It would be nice if we got anything we wanted right now. That seldom happens. One of the key traits of successful people is that they persist and have patience where others simply have had enough and go home.

The problem is often that the time-frames we set up for success in our minds are a bit too optimistic. Advertising tells us that we will have success quickly. The idea of quick and easy success permeates society. Why? Because it’s easy to sell. It’s appealing to the mind that is in itself often lazy and wants shortcuts. And it’s easy to get people to buy another “magic pill” that they hope will solve the problem since the first product will probably leave them unsatisfied. 

Now, I’m not saying that you sometimes can have great success quickly. But often it takes time. More time than you may have hoped for.

How can you set up realistic time-frames with possible obstacles mapped out reasonably well? Well…

4. Educate yourself.

“Education is the most powerful weapon which you can use to change the world.”

By educating yourself about whatever you want to achieve or overcome you can gain a lot of power.

So read books – a good tip is to check out the reviews at amazon.com before buying – and blogs. Ask people who have already done what you want to how they did it. And try to help someone like someone else helped you. It’s an awesome way to gain greater understanding of what you are doing/talking about. Plus, you get to help someone out.

Educating yourself can also, like curiousness, be a great way to get rid of many of the foggy fears you may have and that are holding you back from taking action and moving towards what you want.

5. Make a friend out of an enemy.

“If you want to make peace with your enemy, you have to work with your enemy. Then he becomes your partner.”

Turning an enemy or someone we don’t like into a friend is difficult because first impressions can be powerful. Our concept of a person can remain intact if we don’t push further and question and explore it.

Of course, since the ego needs to tell you that you are right and someone else is wrong then it can be hard to change your opinion of someone. That opinion of him/her is tied up in your ego and fuels your sense of being “right”. The key and the way out here is to not take your thoughts or emotions too seriously. To stay on top of them instead of letting them overwhelm and control you.

This can allow you to open your mind to a change in the relationship.

Now, how can you make him/her your friend? One quick suggestion would be to start looking for the positive in the person. Then to take the first step and give some kind of value – like help for instance – to that person. And then to take more steps if s/he is not convinced that you want to change the relationship.

6. You haven’t lost until you don’t get up.

“The greatest glory in living lies not in never falling, but in rising every time we fall.”

“There is no easy walk to freedom anywhere, and many of us will have to pass through the valley of the shadow of death again and again before we reach the mountaintop of our desires.”

Your road to success may not be as bad as it was for Mandela and the people in South Africa. But you will probably have some bad times and some difficult and painful times. There will be bad days and bad weeks (or even months).

When you first get started with something you can be filled with enthusiasm and perfect dreams. Somewhere down the line it can become a bit messier and more uncertain.

Should you give up at such a point? Well, sometimes maybe it is time to quit and find a something new to focus on. But oftentimes it’s like the world is testing you. It wonders if you really want this bad enough. That’s when you need to push forward and not let temporary obstacles – no matter if they are real or just in your mind – stop you.

Failing is normal. Making mistakes is normal. The people with most success are often the people who failed the most. They learned from their mistakes and failures, grew stronger and more resilient and persisted while the rest of the people gave up.

7. Do it now.

“We must use time wisely and forever realize that the time is always ripe to do right.”

Circumstances will never be perfect. If you wait for that perfect day to finally take action, you might wind up waiting for your whole life. Some day most often never comes at all.

Don’t get stuck in that all too common thought trap of thinking that you will do some special thing, but always someday in the future. The right time to take the first step and begin is pretty much always right now.

And if you don’t feel like doing it and getting started, don’t let that inner resistance – if it’s not there for some very good reason – stop you. Your emotions and thoughts are not in control of you even though they may want to fool you into thinking so. You can take action despite what they are telling you.

8. Don’t stop moving now.

“When the water starts boiling it is foolish to turn off the heat.”

I think this is an aspect that is often a bit overlooked.

When you have achieved some success, what do you do? A common approach is to just lean back and enjoy your own awesomeness and what you’ve accomplished. Nothing wrong with that. However, if you lean back for too long you lose your momentum. And then you have to start over again (or at least start moving again from a worse place than right after the success).

Mandela has an awesome point here. Just like you don’t turn off the heat as soon as the water starts boiling you should not retreat or stop moving as soon as you see some success. Because this is the time where you can enjoy what you have accomplished but also should keep on moving and use that momentum and positive, upward spiral of action and results that you have created.

9. Understand that everyone is just human.

“That was one of the things that worried me – to be raised to the position of a semi-god – because then you are no longer a human being. I wanted to be known as Mandela, a man with weaknesses, some of which are fundamental, and a man who is committed.”

When you start to make myths out of people – even though they may have produced extraordinary results – you run the risk of becoming disconnected from them. You can start to feel like you could never achieve similar things that they did because they are so very different. So it’s important to keep in mind that everyone is just a human being no matter who they are.

And I think it’s important to remember that we are all human and prone to make mistakes. Holding people to unreasonable standards will only create more unnecessary conflicts in your world and negativity within you. Something one may want to keep in mind right now as Barack Obama begins his presidency.

It’s also important to remember this to avoid falling into the useless habit of beating yourself up over mistakes that you have made. And instead be able to see with clarity where you went wrong and what you can learn from your mistake. And then try again.

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  • Kriston January 22, 2009, 4:31 am

    Powerful. Thank you so much for sharing that wisdom.

  • Ari Koinuma January 22, 2009, 5:29 am

    Henrik,

    Thanks for the timely set of wisdom. The #1 and #2 in particular, is something we definitely must keep in mind when the global economy is suffering. Everybody is worried about risk management, cutting out losses by making things smaller. Instead, this is the time to be bold, to dream big.

    ari

  • Nicolai - Happiness Cafe January 22, 2009, 1:16 pm

    I LOVE these portraits of great personalities combined with the essentiels of their teachings.

    You did it with the article about Gandhi, I loved it too :-D

    I hope you will bring more of these in the future Henrik.

  • Vincent January 22, 2009, 4:33 pm

    Hi Henrik,

    “6. You haven’t lost until you don’t get up.”

    This is an important point. We lost only until when we gave up. Sometimes there are small set backs in our endeavors but that does not mean that we had failed. By persisting and not giving up, we are almost guaranteed that we will reach where we want to go.

    Cheers
    Vincent
    Personal Development Blogger

  • Very Evolved January 22, 2009, 7:28 pm

    Be curious – as a scientist this really resonates.

    It is at the heart of understanding everything about the universe, the human mind, and future of both.

    Patrick

  • Marko January 23, 2009, 2:22 pm

    Thank you again from this good post Henrik! Mandela is really a man who has gone through a lot, but is still smiling.

    I so agree on the “2. Move towards your fear.” and “9. Understand that everyone is just human” points.

    People often have a tendency to say “I could do that if I wanted to” but never do. Those people who have excelled to do something remarkable have risen from their hands and done things instead of just speaking about them.

    It’s always easy to speak and judge others, but when you are starting something new and feel the upcoming challenge and the suspense it creates, but still carry on, although you may fear what’s ahead, there lies the real courage in my opinion.

  • Henrik Edberg January 23, 2009, 4:26 pm

    Thanks for all the feedback, I’m happy to hear that you found the article helpful. :)

  • Ariel January 24, 2009, 9:12 am

    Outstanding article, Henrik! The last two really stood out for me.

  • Dan Massicotte January 27, 2009, 8:40 pm

    Uncertainty really is a powerful tool to use either because you’re afraid (fearful) of the unknown or because when you are in that state you’re more alert and prepared to take action in a way that fosters productivity and getting things done.

  • Sam W W June 28, 2009, 10:52 am

    Thank for the good artical from Henrik. The fundamental are explained the important steps of changing the world but we should put some steps for practice if we want to be different for change in our life and the world too. Thank you.

  • Mitch August 29, 2009, 3:19 am

    I’ve saved this article for months and I’m finally getting around to it. I love these quotes, especially #9. That’s actually the most important one, coming from him, because most of the world, including South Africa, saw him as a larger than life entity, and it helped to sweep him into the president’s office after all those years in jail. Some of the moves he had to make were contrary to some governmental positions around the world, and they seemed disappointed at the time, but there’s not a single person who can ever say his motives were anything less than genuine.

    Thank you for putting this post together.