Comments on: The 4 Sneaky Traps of Having Heroes http://www.positivityblog.com/index.php/2008/09/26/the-4-sneaky-traps-of-having-heroes/ Thu, 09 Sep 2010 04:18:16 +0200 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.4 hourly 1 By: Shann http://www.positivityblog.com/index.php/2008/09/26/the-4-sneaky-traps-of-having-heroes/comment-page-1/#comment-122483 Shann Tue, 14 Oct 2008 03:05:30 +0000 http://www.positivityblog.com/index.php/2008/09/26/the-4-sneaky-traps-of-having-heroes/#comment-122483 This post reminds that we all seem most interesting and intriguing from a distance. When you get up close and personal we are only human. Loving kindness and a sense of humor are my super heroes. Shann This post reminds that we all seem most interesting and intriguing from a distance.

When you get up close and personal we are only human.

Loving kindness and a sense of humor are my super heroes.

Shann

]]> By: Flora Morris Brown, Ph.D. http://www.positivityblog.com/index.php/2008/09/26/the-4-sneaky-traps-of-having-heroes/comment-page-1/#comment-122013 Flora Morris Brown, Ph.D. Fri, 10 Oct 2008 23:18:20 +0000 http://www.positivityblog.com/index.php/2008/09/26/the-4-sneaky-traps-of-having-heroes/#comment-122013 Hi Henrik, This is a very important post. It reminds of the pressure I feel when someone tells me I'm their hero. I get concerned that when they realize I have flaws and have made many mistakes they'll lose the enthusiasm for their goals that they think I've sparked. But more important is that <b>I</b> remember that I can't walk on water, as I stick to my goals to inspire others. Hi Henrik,

This is a very important post. It reminds of the pressure I feel when someone tells me I’m their hero.

I get concerned that when they realize I have flaws and have made many mistakes they’ll lose the enthusiasm for their goals that they think I’ve sparked.

But more important is that I remember that I can’t walk on water, as I stick to my goals to inspire others.

]]> By: Alex Fayle | Someday Syndrome http://www.positivityblog.com/index.php/2008/09/26/the-4-sneaky-traps-of-having-heroes/comment-page-1/#comment-119284 Alex Fayle | Someday Syndrome Mon, 29 Sep 2008 10:11:59 +0000 http://www.positivityblog.com/index.php/2008/09/26/the-4-sneaky-traps-of-having-heroes/#comment-119284 After reading this post, I really tried to think of people I would consider as heroes and I honestly couldn't come up with any. I have people that I admire and people whose success I aspire to and whose actions inspire me, but heroes? Nope - like Gordon Lightfoot (and Stars on 54) said: "Heroes often fail." Stars on 54: If you could read my mind - http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=97ZbiemJ1KU After reading this post, I really tried to think of people I would consider as heroes and I honestly couldn’t come up with any. I have people that I admire and people whose success I aspire to and whose actions inspire me, but heroes? Nope – like Gordon Lightfoot (and Stars on 54) said: “Heroes often fail.”

Stars on 54: If you could read my mind – http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=97ZbiemJ1KU

]]> By: Henrik Edberg http://www.positivityblog.com/index.php/2008/09/26/the-4-sneaky-traps-of-having-heroes/comment-page-1/#comment-118918 Henrik Edberg Sun, 28 Sep 2008 09:00:41 +0000 http://www.positivityblog.com/index.php/2008/09/26/the-4-sneaky-traps-of-having-heroes/#comment-118918 Thanks for all the feedback and insights, guys! You really added some excellent points to the article. Thanks for all the feedback and insights, guys! You really added some excellent points to the article.

]]> By: Jenny Mannion http://www.positivityblog.com/index.php/2008/09/26/the-4-sneaky-traps-of-having-heroes/comment-page-1/#comment-118504 Jenny Mannion Fri, 26 Sep 2008 17:41:35 +0000 http://www.positivityblog.com/index.php/2008/09/26/the-4-sneaky-traps-of-having-heroes/#comment-118504 Hi, Timely post as I am running a group writing project right now called Heroes of Healing! I feel you hit good points. As long as you remember Heroes are people too and those who you might find heroic others might not - I think you are safe from the above happening. I have MANY heroes in my life that I have learned from and would not be where I am now without their insight. I resonate with many that are inspirational but it does not mean I have to believe EVERYTHING that ANY of them say. We are all separate individuals and that is part of what makes life so incredibly interesting. If you get a few golden nuggets from each Hero -- that is priceless! Thank you for the post. It might fit in very well with my project as I do want to make people aware that there is not just one Hero for each of us....would love to talk more about it. Gratefully, Jenny Hi, Timely post as I am running a group writing project right now called Heroes of Healing! I feel you hit good points. As long as you remember Heroes are people too and those who you might find heroic others might not – I think you are safe from the above happening.

I have MANY heroes in my life that I have learned from and would not be where I am now without their insight. I resonate with many that are inspirational but it does not mean I have to believe EVERYTHING that ANY of them say. We are all separate individuals and that is part of what makes life so incredibly interesting. If you get a few golden nuggets from each Hero — that is priceless!

Thank you for the post. It might fit in very well with my project as I do want to make people aware that there is not just one Hero for each of us….would love to talk more about it. Gratefully, Jenny

]]> By: Sid Savara http://www.positivityblog.com/index.php/2008/09/26/the-4-sneaky-traps-of-having-heroes/comment-page-1/#comment-118502 Sid Savara Fri, 26 Sep 2008 17:19:31 +0000 http://www.positivityblog.com/index.php/2008/09/26/the-4-sneaky-traps-of-having-heroes/#comment-118502 Just like tunnel vision, I remember reading once (can't for the life of me recall where I got the reference) that having someone we are trying to emulate (a hero) also limits us - we mentally put our own barrier on what is possible. One example is the 4 minute mile. Everybody thought it was an impossible barrier, and tried to be as fast as the fastest times at that time, over 4 minutes. Then, when one person ran a mile in under 4 minutes, a flurry of other runners suddenly broke it as well. I don't know for certain if it was physical or mental, but in that specific case, I think it was probably that having their "hero" put a mental wall up in their minds, that 4 minute miles were impossible, because nobody else had done it - and that barrier only came down one day when somebody actually did run it that fast. Just like tunnel vision, I remember reading once (can’t for the life of me recall where I got the reference) that having someone we are trying to emulate (a hero) also limits us – we mentally put our own barrier on what is possible.

One example is the 4 minute mile. Everybody thought it was an impossible barrier, and tried to be as fast as the fastest times at that time, over 4 minutes. Then, when one person ran a mile in under 4 minutes, a flurry of other runners suddenly broke it as well.

I don’t know for certain if it was physical or mental, but in that specific case, I think it was probably that having their “hero” put a mental wall up in their minds, that 4 minute miles were impossible, because nobody else had done it – and that barrier only came down one day when somebody actually did run it that fast.

]]> By: Dereck Coatney http://www.positivityblog.com/index.php/2008/09/26/the-4-sneaky-traps-of-having-heroes/comment-page-1/#comment-118501 Dereck Coatney Fri, 26 Sep 2008 17:10:29 +0000 http://www.positivityblog.com/index.php/2008/09/26/the-4-sneaky-traps-of-having-heroes/#comment-118501 This is a good article. I often put it in the perspective of an "idol." While I think all the points you made are extremely good, the first two are the best. It's like two sides of a coin: how we might live up to an idol, or a hero, and how they might live up to us. These two perspectives are what define what could become the ultimate differences we have with them, and in the end, it's what might make us see how our heroes fail us. In other words, it's exactly as the title of your post suggest, these are the biggest traps from having heroes. This is a good article. I often put it in the perspective of an “idol.” While I think all the points you made are extremely good, the first two are the best. It’s like two sides of a coin: how we might live up to an idol, or a hero, and how they might live up to us.

These two perspectives are what define what could become the ultimate differences we have with them, and in the end, it’s what might make us see how our heroes fail us.

In other words, it’s exactly as the title of your post suggest, these are the biggest traps from having heroes.

]]> By: Avani-Mehta http://www.positivityblog.com/index.php/2008/09/26/the-4-sneaky-traps-of-having-heroes/comment-page-1/#comment-118493 Avani-Mehta Fri, 26 Sep 2008 16:36:53 +0000 http://www.positivityblog.com/index.php/2008/09/26/the-4-sneaky-traps-of-having-heroes/#comment-118493 We all fall into this trap once when we idolize our parents in childhood. Of course, a lot of us are lucky enough to stick through the tough period and find the most amazing lifelong friends in them. We all fall into this trap once when we idolize our parents in childhood. Of course, a lot of us are lucky enough to stick through the tough period and find the most amazing lifelong friends in them.

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