Comments on: How to Flip Things Around: Act as You Would Like to Feel

By: Confused

Confused — Mon, 22 Jun 2009 05:32:41 +0000

These tips are great! They do work for me, but I often can’t help but fall back into the circuit of negative emotions… I feel that when you’re “faking” the positive emotion that you’re in a sense, lying to yourself and other people, and then that makes me feel bad, because when I’m “lying” about how I feel about something, I don’t get to say how I really feel, and release those emotions that I am experiencing. So I’m just confused as to how exactly it works. I know it’s beneficial, because it has worked for me, but because it doesn’t always work I want to know if there is something more to replacing negative emotions with positive ones.

By: Michael K

Michael K — Wed, 17 Jun 2009 19:03:25 +0000

My compliments on your article, Mr. Edberg. This is the best single mental health article/advise I have ever read in my career as a mental health counselor. You give practical application for the common ailment of distressing emotions. To the degree I employ your advice, it works for me. I reckon that the most accomplished people on earth probably ‘flip things around and act as they would like to feel’.

By: StaciFrost

StaciFrost — Sat, 20 Sep 2008 21:26:36 +0000

When I can remember to do it I really benefit from turning negativity around. Like any other “unnatural” way of thinking it requires practice.

I try to start my day asking myself “What do I get to do today,” instead of, “What do I have to do today,” and believe it or not it works over time. I find myself looking for the positive things in the day instead of dreading what I normally perceive as negative things.

Thanks for the additional perspective on how to use this tool

By: Leighna

Leighna — Wed, 17 Sep 2008 21:17:34 +0000

Great article — I’ve been thinking about this subject a lot lately: letting yourself really feel the emotions you’re feeling vs. putting positive energy out there/over the emotion. And I was struggling with the whole “fakeness” of it. But making the connection with choice solves the problem because there’s nothing fake about a choice you make. Its a real, tangible conscious decision. Thank you — very enlightening!

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By: viki

viki — Tue, 16 Sep 2008 18:12:06 +0000

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By: Chase Barfield

Chase Barfield — Tue, 16 Sep 2008 14:56:08 +0000

I agree with your post. I like your actionable steps. What you are telling people to do is to become self aware. This is difficult for most. But, as you point out, things get easier with practice. Once you begin listening to your body and paying attention to your habits, it becomes quite simple.

Also, keep this in mind everyone. When someone angers you or an unfortunate event happens in your life, ask yourself, “what will it accomplish to get angry?” People are normally more productive when anger does not alter their perception. And when another is trying to anger you, remember that by becoming angry, they achieved their goal and won.

By: thatcoolbroad

thatcoolbroad — Tue, 16 Sep 2008 14:40:57 +0000

I love the “fake it ’till you make it” theory and totally buy into it, though I’d never thought to apply in this manner. If I’m feeling a bit insecure or self-conscious, I fake being confident…stand up straight and tall and “fake it”. Before you know it, I’m there!

I reference one of your articles on jealousy in a post I wrote called, “How to turn that ugly green-eyed monster into a very Cool Broad.” And this tip could totally be added to that list of strategies.

Thanks!
tcb

By: Henrik Edberg

Henrik Edberg — Tue, 16 Sep 2008 13:59:42 +0000

Thanks for all the feedback!

Connie: ThatÂ´s a simple and useful tip. Thanks!

Richard fan: What I mean with “you are not your emotions” is to not get 100% wrapped up in your emotions. To keep in mind that the feelings (or thoughts) are just something that are passing through your right now and is a part of you but not something you need to identify with completely. As you say, “i believe a lot of negative emotions comes from irrational thinking”. I think so too. To realize that you are not just your thoughts or feelings lets you take a step back and observe the feelings and thoughts and see if they are useful for you. Instead of getting overwhelmed by them.

You can just observe the feelings and go “oh, there are those negative and irritated feelings again” and then take action to change those feelings. Rather than getting totally wrapped up in them and become more and more irritated until your whole day is ruined or you explode over something that is actually pretty trivial. Check out Eckhart TolleÂ´s books for more on this.

By: Dr.John Whitney

Dr.John Whitney — Tue, 16 Sep 2008 13:44:46 +0000

Thank you for the best advice on dealing with troubled emotions. If skeptics need proof, get scientific validity in “The Biology of Belief”, by Bruce Lipton PhD
Great stuff, please keep it up.