Comments on: How to Find Happiness the Easy Way

By: Seven good general ideas to be happy | FrauLehmann

Seven good general ideas to be happy | FrauLehmann — Wed, 30 Dec 2009 12:58:28 +0000

[...] Seven good general ideas to be happy Posted: July 23rd, 2008 | Author: FrauLehmann | Tags: Alltag, Annahme, Freude, Gedanken, Glück, Kreativität, Leben, Licht, Liebe, Menschen, Natur | No Comments » The Positivity Blog – How to Find Happiness the Easy Way [...]

By: Lore

Lore — Wed, 06 Aug 2008 20:02:27 +0000

Thank you for your post on happiness. I seem to be obsessed with the topic of late. I am naturally optimistic and my husband is naturally pessimistic this makes for interesting conversations. Carol Ann, I like what you say about Happiness as a goal. I have made it mine as well. I find myself happiest when Iâ€™m engaged in absorbing activities that cause me to forget myself, lose track of time and stop worryingâ€¦like children do when they are playing. It also helps to be living in the moment. Thanks!

By: Carol Ann Wiley

Carol Ann Wiley — Sun, 03 Aug 2008 16:15:22 +0000

I have an ex-husband who once asked me what my major goal in life was. I told him, “To be Happy”! He told me that that was NOT a goal. Now, some 30 years later, I beg to differ. To be happy is indeed a goal and not so easily attained as is evidenced by the discussion in these comments and ones I am seeing around the blogosphere these days.

I am thinking that happiness is like a butterfly: elusive and beautiful, fleeting yet returning, taking and giving. Just as we can’t hold down a butterfly and make it stay, the same can be said of happiness.

There are so many forces outside of ourselves that will chase our butterfly/happiness away. But there are so many forces inside of ourselves that will ensure that both will return. So I am intent on strengthening the forces inside of me to be prepared for those forces outside of me. Now that will make me happy!

By: Gerard

Gerard — Wed, 30 Jul 2008 15:51:53 +0000

Lorie and Jarrod,

I also have a problem with this formulation : “dropping emotions and thoughts (both positive and negative)”. One might infer that the ultimate objective is to be without emotions and thoughts.

I prefer this one (not from me!) : to be free from / not to be a slave of our emotions and thoughts. To be free of unpleasant emotions and thoughts is an easy objective to agree with. In my experience, the difficulty is with pleasant ones, because we like them. One has to be aware they can carry us away and can make us make big mistakes because when we’re blinded by them.

However, I also agree with your points. It’s important to have to have a purpose which feeds our mind and our spirituality. Not to forget kindness which starts first with us.

By: Rick

Rick — Thu, 24 Jul 2008 20:50:19 +0000

Self expression and gratitude for what we have. There are things that I would like that I may not have but the key is appreciating what you do have. That is so much more important than the things you desire. When you’re sitting next to your spouse or significant other, reach out and hold their hand. A gentle squeeze speaks volumes.

Rick

By: orionstarr

orionstarr — Thu, 24 Jul 2008 12:49:09 +0000

I only agree with some of the points, but overall great read.

By: Laurie | Express Yourself to Success

Laurie | Express Yourself to Success — Thu, 24 Jul 2008 12:46:46 +0000

I like having positive emotions and, yes, they make me happy. So does inner peace.

For me, I find a quick boost of happiness when I spend time with friends (#2 on your list) – even if only a quick phone call. Having wonderful people in my life makes a big difference in my happiness levels!

By: Mike

Mike — Wed, 23 Jul 2008 20:57:11 +0000

I agree with Jarod Warrior, but this was okay too.

By: Alex B.

Alex B. — Wed, 23 Jul 2008 15:54:58 +0000

It’s not “ad nauseum” but rather “ad nauseam.”

By: Terry Dactyl

Terry Dactyl — Wed, 23 Jul 2008 14:12:20 +0000

Follow these 6 points and happiness will be a beneficial by-product:
1. find a wife/husband/life partner
2. find a meaningful, well-paid, tolerable career
3. own your own home
4. exercise properly three times a week
5. save 10% of your income into a managed fund. When your fund reaches 1 million and you have paid off your mortgage, stop working.
6. As regards your freetime and retirement, decide if you are a creative, political, financial or charitable person. If you are creative write a book or join a band. If you are political get involved in politics. If you are financial start your own business. If you are charitable dedicate your time and energy to your charitable beliefs. It is unlikely you will profit financially from any but the last type of pursuit.
7. Harshly slam the over-simplistic and patronising tone of this reply and point out there are in fact 7 points not 6.