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By: Energy Healing and Spiritual Healing

Energy Healing and Spiritual Healing — Mon, 11 Aug 2008 18:31:10 +0000

7 Sites About Removing Negative Experiences…

My last post was a podcast meditation about removing negative experiences.
This is a powerful meditation and if you have not had a chance to listen to it then nwo is as good a time as any.
I have found a few sites that had some interesting articles on …

By: Kealar

Kealar — Wed, 16 Apr 2008 00:21:53 +0000

I think this is a question of extremes, not being either too positive and also not being too negative. If you are over positive you wont feel the need to grow, if you are over negative you wont feel that you can grow to achieve your goal. So in some cases i think this is helpful, and not a one size fits all approach.

By: Dynamic75

Dynamic75 — Thu, 31 Jan 2008 18:10:12 +0000

I like your point about the intention of the negative motivation. I think that the recipient should have a balance of both negative and positive reinforcement, to much of either one could leave them with a false sense of confidence or demoralized. Then again it also depends on the individual; some people just have thicker skin.

By: Divine

Divine — Thu, 31 Jan 2008 02:44:12 +0000

Thank you for posting this article. I also try seek motivation, never thought of it this way though from a negative point of view and this article helps tremendously. My appreciation to you is in the highest sense.

To show you my gratitude I would like to share with an article I found that also helps in regards to negative experiences, what they are, how to stay positive ect…: http://consciousflex.blogspot.com/2008/01/how-to-stay-positive-in-negative.html/
Thank you indeed, please keep up the incredible work!

By: Never the Same River Twice

Never the Same River Twice — Wed, 30 Jan 2008 18:33:59 +0000

@David – thanks for the reply. I can see your point about duality. However, I do think we have to consider intention as well. If I am being honest with someone with the intention of being honest and helping I might be tough, but I won’t be cruel. If my intention is to make myself feel better while tearing someone else down – not so good.

I’m not trying to imply that your techniques are bad or wrong. I just want to emphasize the idea that this is a skillful way of communicating with another person. If you don’t understand the technique, it’s probably best not to use it.

By: David B. Bohl @ SlowDownFAST.com

David B. Bohl @ SlowDownFAST.com — Wed, 30 Jan 2008 03:18:09 +0000

Dear Never,

There’s a fine line between being rigorously honest with someone and being brutally honest. You’re absolutely right that the latter involves cruelty.

The world has taught us to be cynics. As a result, it’s easy to judge and compare ourselves to others. This is a prime example of negativity.

When we’re able to detach from that way of thinking, and realize that most people are inherently good, we can see things as they really are.

It’s also important to think about duality. Not everything is good or bad, nor is it right or wrong. Things, and people, come in shades of grey. They can be two things at once, but the good can often overshadow the bad – or the mistakes – that people make if we look for it. After all, we’re all human. We’re imperfect, we make mistakes, and we’re vulnerable.

David

By: Mike King

Mike King — Wed, 30 Jan 2008 00:22:19 +0000

I like this post, different from the norm. I personally, like the idea behind negative motivation and I think that stems from being quite critical myself. Its easy for me to use negative motivation without it affecting my emotions at all. In fact, its easier than positive as I often feel people are sucking up or looking for a favor otherwise. I’ve learned that it highly depends on each person’s style whether it is effective or not. After clarifying to a person that your feedback is legit and hopefully helpful to them, I’m all over using it then.

By: Never the Same River Twice

Never the Same River Twice — Tue, 29 Jan 2008 20:47:58 +0000

This is a thought provoking article, David. My thanks to Henrik for sharing it and to you for writing it.

I am a little troubled by the premise here, though. I’m sure we’ve all had people in our lives who *thought* they were practicing negative motivation, but actually they were being cruel. Personally, I have a really hard time learning when I’m in a negative state of mind.

I’d be interested in hearing your opinion of the relationship between positive emotions and learning.