Comments on: One Tip to Decrease Suffering in Your Life

By: Maggie A

Maggie A — Mon, 19 Oct 2009 14:36:35 +0000

I would like to say thank you, for i found this article very useful and comforting and the lovely comments as well.
” What you resist, persist”.
Very true indeed, we should all keep this in mind when facing negative emotions.

By: Sudhir

Sudhir — Wed, 26 Nov 2008 06:35:00 +0000

Hi, very good article. Yes accepting a problem, should rather call it a challenege or a ISSUE makes it far more easier to focus on the solution. What you resist will persist as Robin Sharma has put it in his book & its true. When we stop resisting & accept the issue,60% of the time we find solution has been right there staring in the face. Resisting just uses up lot of energy & tangles up the mind in just coming up with unproductive thought pattern which further causes anxeity & fear.
Thank you again for the article.

By: Melanie Painter

Melanie Painter — Tue, 06 Nov 2007 13:08:11 +0000

Good advice, what you resist does indeed persist so acceptance is a great step in actually letting go of something, if you keep on brushing fear, grief or other uncomfortable emotions under the carpet, they will rise up to bite you on the ass! Sometimes it’s natural to feel scared, especially if you’re stepping out of your comfort zone, so acceptance and kindness to yourself is key. As ever, inspiring reading.

By: Henrik Edberg

Henrik Edberg — Fri, 19 Oct 2007 14:17:02 +0000

Thanks for all your different insights on acceptance. I really appreciate them.

By: Thomas

Thomas — Fri, 19 Oct 2007 11:39:02 +0000

This post reminds me of this post:
http://www.jamesbrausch.com/?p=58

By: Ravi Vora

Ravi Vora — Thu, 18 Oct 2007 20:49:24 +0000

Instead of simply “accepting,” I like to think of it as “letting it roll off your back.” Forget about it and move on. If you don’t dwell on the negative, it can’t affect you.

By: Kacper

Kacper — Thu, 18 Oct 2007 14:18:40 +0000

Hello.

In my case, I have impression that I quite often accept a problem, but this doesn’t remove too much fear or stress. But on the other hand, this stress very often helps me to get more mobilization and motivation in finding solution.

Inspiring post for me. Thanks and greetings.
Kacper

By: Amrit Hallan - Lifeonomy

Amrit Hallan - Lifeonomy — Thu, 18 Oct 2007 08:56:46 +0000

Great thoughts on the importance of acceptance. Acceptance is the first step to words a solution. When we accept that there is a problem and when we accept that, that problem is causing us great distress we are in a better position to deal with that problem. It is just like knowing the enemy in order to destroy it.

By: Martin Wildam

Martin Wildam — Thu, 18 Oct 2007 07:50:00 +0000

I would like to add something to your practical method to learn acceptance: When you let the feeling in it is also a good thing to name the feeling when you have let it in. For example “Fear of loosing my job”. This helps me usually to identify similar feelings and then I can choose trying to identify the root problem why those feelings rise up. When I named the feeling and it does not go away itself I think of putting it aside tenderly.

When putting negative feelings aside is difficult for you, thinking of the GTD “actionable” strategy may help: If there is a possible next action according to the experience you made when the negative feeling came up then DO IT otherwise acceptance is easier because you are conscious that there is nothing to do about the issue.

By: Trula

Trula — Wed, 17 Oct 2007 23:38:13 +0000

Surrender and let it in. Observe the feeling in your mind and body without labelling or judging it.

Ooooooh, that is very good advice! I need to practice this more myself.