Why you should not trust yourself too much

by Henrik Edberg

Everybody says; “trust yourself”. Or; “go with your gut”. This is essential if you want to live a good life that’s your own. Intuition and a feeling of self-confidence are important. But often it’s also important to be open to the possibility that you may not be right. Especially if you’re a beginner in some area of your life.

If you think that you are almost always right, or that you “know how things work”, you get be right. This can be very emotionally satisfying. However, it also creates a mental rigidity. Your view of reality will feel familiar and safe. But barring some major, chocking event radically changing your perspective, it will also limit your potential for growth and exploration of new parts of yourself and the world since your present personal reality is “right”.

Also, the more important something is, the more important it will feel to be right about it, to have that emotional security. For most this might be your love life or your career. But I do believe this applies to all personal growth, no matter how important. And here’s the trap:

If you trust you gut it will often tell you what you know, what you have been taught and have practiced throughout your life. That emotional gut feeling will almost always win over any logical reasons you might have for a change. Especially when deciding on and going through with those most important changes. You might say to yourself: “it doesn’t feel right”. But that is just your old thought patterns struggling to keep you on your usual route through life, struggling to keep you inside your comfort-zone.

Instead, using your common sense, just try and let go of those feelings in one area for a short time. Consult books and seek out information from the leading experts in some area that you’d like to improve in your life. Create a new habit by using that information for 21 days (the commonly cited number of days it takes to establish a new habit) or, perhaps even better, with Steve Pavlina´s 30 day trial.

Also, try to avoid the beginner’s trap of doing your own modifications on experts advice based on what you feel is right (I know I’ve done myself that too many times). It’s likely to lead to confusion and results that are not as good as they might have been.

Just try it. There’s a good possibility you’ll get something valuable out of the experience. Being right is nice. But going beyond right, maybe just once in a while, can open up many new and exciting possibilities in your life.




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